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This entry is part 17 of 98 in the series Principles

The Principle Behind Enjoyment

Principle 19: The Principle of the Journey

What do we as humans want out of existence? If you had full power what would be your choice as to the emotion you would feel? How you would spend your time, your end, your new beginnings, etc.? What position would you choose, what type of relationship, what type of possessions, physical or spiritual?

Many believe that our desired end is a perpetual state of happiness. The Buddhists believe that happiness is always temporary and nirvanic bliss is much more desirable. The Mormons teach that “man is that he might have joy.” Other teachers have said we should seek the “peace that passes all understanding.” Then we have those who believe that enjoyable pleasure is the best we can hope for and spend their lives pursuing it.

People express different ideas as to the optimum method of livingness, but the question we need to ask is what is the core principle we are looking for here and how do we apply it?

It would help to do this exercise. Look back over your life and reflect on your state of mind, your happiness, your joy or good feelings over the various situations and events during your years on this earth. Reflect on your state of consciousness and how you felt and then pick the three that would be the most desirable to experience again. What are they?

Here are some answers that may come from a group:

The day and, or the hour I fell in love.
The day I got married.
The day our first child was born.
The day I won the big race.
The day I caught the winning touchdown pass.
The day my friend told me I changed his life for the better.
The day my friends threw me a surprise party.
The day I graduated from college.
The day I started my business.
The day I got the big promotion.
The day I discovered God.
The day I found my purpose.
The day I made a tough decision that changed my life for the better.
The day just let loose and had a good time.

Pick three things and then go back in your consciousness and briefly relive them. What was special about them? What was the key ingredient that made you feel good? What principle can you apply to repeat your enjoyment on perhaps an even grander or at least a more consistent basis?

When this concept is contemplated the answer will come. It is contained in the principle of freedom and can be expressed thus: “The freedom to make a decision, to transmute that decision to a goal and the goal to reality.”

Usually it is not an hour or a day that comes where you note your happiness, but it is the process of deciding and moving toward that decision that just enhances your overall enjoyment and state of mind.

Happiness is not a state than can be achieved by pursuing it, but is a byproduct of progression toward a goal.

If happiness is progression toward a goal then what is unhappiness?

It is movement away from the goal.

Freedom is essential to happiness because without freedom there can be no movement forward. With loss of freedom comes movement away from the goals established accompanied by a negative state of mind.

Happiness is temporary because once a goal is met a person ceases to move forward and the happiness dissipates. To cause happiness to return a new decision must be made and a new goal set. As he then moves toward the new goal he then has the byproduct of happiness again should he choose to attach himself to it.

Some may consider that last statement odd, but we must realize that we came here more for the journey than for the emotional state of being happy.

If someone were to ask me if I am happy I would say that I am not much bothered as to whether I am happy or not. As I said, happiness is a byproduct. Like the aroma of good wine you take it in when you are relaxed with some extra time to sit back and enjoy, but if you have a big workload you may just drink the wine with your meal without taking the time to enjoy the flavor. Happiness is like the aroma. The person living a balanced life can take it in when he wants to, but he doesn’t need it all the time.

Life is like a journey in a car to a desirable destination. As long as you are moving toward your desire the air will be blowing past you. Normally, you are content to just drive forward and not feel the wind, but on a nice day you might have a companion drive and then you can open the sunroof and feel the moving air and enjoy the scenery.

The moving air is like happiness. It is available as long as you move toward the goal, but you do not bask in it at all times. Instead, it is available to enhance your trip. It is not the end product of your trip for when the destination is reached the wind or the happiness is stilled and a new goal must be sought.

Pleasure is like happiness in that it is always available to one who controls his destiny, but he is not always basking in it. He partakes of it from time to time to increase his enjoyment, but if he were to seek pleasure in every moment it would cease to be enjoyable.

Peace is a different matter. Internal peace through the soul can be with us always, twenty-four hours a day if we follow the highest we know and move along the path of life with harmlessness and a clear conscience.

An internal sense of joyousness can also be with the disciple at all times. To achieve this he must tune into the will of God and then do his part in bringing that will into manifestation. This sense of moving forward toward the divine will is joy and it is his forever so long as he moves in the direction of Spirit.

“Action may not always bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action.”
— Benjamin Disraeli

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1. “A person may use common sense principles in their business and have great success, yet let all reason fly out the window in their relationships or with their religion.”

2. “The more spheres of relationship available to magnetic pull the greater the manifestation of love.”

3. “The initiative to tread the path of love is yours alone, but our growth in love as well as light is dependent on others to a great degree.”

4. “The relationship of humanity to Christ has not been sufficient the past 2000 years and have indeed lacked a fullness as was prophesied by Saul.”

5. “There is nothing wrong with any relationship if pursued harmlessly by free will.”

6. “The principle to work toward in all relationships is the balancing of energies.”

7. “The greatest balance is achieved by a one-to-one relationship when we are talking about anything involving sex.”

8. “Even the Great Ones depend on relationship for growth and higher learning.”

9. “If we are complete by ourselves then any type of relationship would be completely unnecessary and there would be no association which would benefit or enhance us in any way.”

10. “If you are not married, or seem to have no prospects, do not despair for it is quite possible that you will learn more through non marriage relationships than through marriage itself.”

11. “Remember this. Marriage is a relationship, but it is only one relationship out of many.”

12. “It is indeed true that we must have relationship for us to progress on the path of return and if we are not married we must examine the relationships we do have and make the best of them.”

13. “The relationships you do have in present time are very important; else your soul would not have brought them to you.”

14. “If it is indeed in the design of God that you be married you will feel it when the time is right, but until that time it is best to live in the world where we find ourselves and see the many opportunities to serve in the relationships available in the Now. They are always there to be found.”

15. “The thread of commonality which goes through all relationships is that our circumstances in each life are arranged by our souls in such a manner to aid with our maximum advancement toward progress, service and wholeness.”

16. “All creation is composed of relationships.”

17. “Without relationship there would be no form, no creation, no intelligence, no love and no universe.”

18. “Some seekers have made the claim that they have evolved beyond relationship, that they need no one else besides themselves, but such is an illusion.”

19. “Whether we want to admit it or not all of us are deeply involved in relationship.”

20. “God himself needs us in relationship and if God should need us for relationship then surely we need God and each other.”

21. “Eventually we will have levels of higher relationship never before experienced which we call the Molecular Relationship.”

22. “As it is, none of us have a perfect relationship, nor should we expect one, for we are all individuals. We can, however, seek to have a fulfilling one, especially when the desired energy flow is understood.”

23. “When the time is right a good romantic partner will come into your life. In the meantime a working non romantic partner will work much better than a spouse who does not support you.”

24. “A major cause and effect of discord in relationships is arguing.”

25. “Affection is extremely important in a male-female relationship. It is the glue that cements the bond leading to oneness.”

26. “A yielding nature is essential to create oneness in any relationship and it must be possessed by both parties.”

27. “Each one of us will be much happier when we realize that criticism, insults (real and imagined) and barbs will come whenever we have a relationship with one or more people.”

28. “In a relationship, you both give and receive, but the giving and receiving is NEVER equal in this world. If you are giving more than receiving, then by default you become the teacher in the relationship.”

29. “When one divorces frivolously, on a whim, or because of betrayal with another person, definite harm can come. It is generally recognized that a committed couple, especially with children should do everything in their power to rekindle their love and live together in peace.”

30. “You can’t please everyone so just be you, do your best and move on with harmlessness.”

31. “All unhappiness in any relationship can be traced back to a failure to communicate by one or both parties.”

32. “Put aside negative feelings and move on, explore and learn from each other.”

33. “It is our responsibility as a species to take relationship to its next great beginning.”

34. “There are times to learn and share through marriage and times to learn through other relationships.”

35. “No one has ever been truly happy in a relationship who has not had a hope of unity or union with others.”

36. “All people feel a need for more union than they have at the present moment.”

37. “It is important to contemplate the root source of happiness. It can be summed up in one sentence: Interaction with others that leads to unity.”

38. “Ending a relationship with openness and honesty instead of deceit and betrayal keeps the door open for progress on the spiritual path.”

39. “Eventually all must learn to master the intimate relationship on the road to liberation and unity.”

40. “There is indeed a principle of forgiveness, but it has much more to do with a person’s relationship with his own soul than good or evil or a decree from God.”

41. “People are following the principle of harmlessness when they have learned to control their emotional bodies to the extent that they are able to practice right thought, speech and action in their relationships with others, themselves and their environment. It means they have a constructive and positive approach to everything they do.”

42. “The relationships we have with each other and the influence we wield is a display in miniature of the influences of the planets and other heavenly bodies.”

43. “Many teachers from the other side who work with humanity are fellow disembodied humans and are not Masters. A relationship with these beings would be much more similar to a relationship with a fellow human on the earth than a disciple to a Master.”

44. “To disagree because of unnecessary illusion and misunderstanding creates waste of time and distance in relationship.”

45. “The stars do not yet have an organization as complex as a human city. They do have relationship, but they are simple relationships and even these relationships are created more through the interplay of advanced lives who have passed through the human kingdom rather than that of the actual solar life force itself.”

46. “We owe our vary existence to the intimate relationships of the tiny lives out of which we are composed.”

47. “Many there are who teach oneness with God yet fail to have a relationship with even one human, out of billions available, where a semblance of oneness is demonstrated.”

48. “When Jesus said “I and my Father are one,” He merely reached a realization of the relationship of His own holy spirit in relationship to God and this principle applies to us all when we attain to “the stature of the fullness of Christ.”

49. “In principle, ‘A Course in Miracles’ is the best relationship book that’s ever been written, a totally new light on principles. There is elaboration on principles on relationships in there that have never been given to mankind before.”

50. “The relationship of the Masters such as Christ to the higher permanent inhabitants of Shamballa corresponds to the human relationship to the Masters.”

51. “The true science of astrology is built around the science of relationships. The principle is this. One living being in relationship with another living being will influence that entity.”

52. “Relationship and the establishment of new and greater relationship is an eternal principle.”

53. “Forget for the moment about any mass appearance of the Christ and instead consider your individual relationship with God.”

54. “The most important area of trust in a marriage relationship is love.”

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