Chapter Fifteen
 Key Three – Willingness to Give

Whereas communication is the keystone to happiness, a giving nature is that which builds the bridge to a joyous union. When Joan communicates her needs to John, she needs a satisfying response to obtain fulfillment. John must be willing to give in to those reasonable needs which are communicated. Communication itself is the highest form of giving. Giving is merely communicating to the other person the idea that you value him or her as much as you do yourself. Those who do not have a giving nature are rarely good communicators on a one-to-one basis. They may be able to speak before groups but be incapable of sharing feelings on an intimate level.

The committed love relationship is the highest form of schooling on the earth in that it teaches communication and givingness. The reason for this is that male and female are on opposite polarities as far as energy is concerned. This also applies to same sex relationships as in any relationship one gravitates more to sending, and the other in receiving. This causes in both individuals the need to make a considerable effort before they can effectively communicate and give. They are both forced to develop some empathy and open-mindedness.

To give to another person what he or she wants is not always easy to do. It will be found, however, that the more accurate the communication is for both parties the easier it will be to give. Generally, the reason a partner in a committed relationship does not have their needs fulfilled is because they were not properly communicated. One should always seek to fulfill the needs of the mate involved as long as one’s own needs are not sacrificed to an extreme and there is no harm done. In doing this, we will create an automatic trigger in our mates that will cause them to respond with givingness. It is impossible to give over an extended period of time and not receive back. It is a universal law that we must receive that which was given out.

A Course in Miracles states it aptly by saying “To give and receive are one.” If we fulfill the needs of others, then others must come to us, sooner or later, and fulfill our needs. If every married or attached person believed this law they would then seek to fulfill the needs of their mates whether they thought the partner deserved it or not, for if they refuse they may find their own needs unfulfilled.

There are some instances where fulfillment of the needs of the two involved may conflict with each other. For instance, he may want sex four times a week and she only two. This is what they each need for fulfillment. In this case it would be wrong for the woman to give in to the man all the time if it causes her consistent distress. We must not forget that we have an obligation to our own fulfillment as well as that of others. In this case a compromise is necessary and compromise itself is a form of giving. Compromise is only permanently successful when both parties are willing to yield, or give. In this case they could agree to sex three times a week or they could decide to let the male initiate sex during one week and she initiate the second week. This way each could be fulfilled sexually at least every other week, and as they grow old together seeking to fulfill each other they will find that their needs and desires will adjust to each other and they will eventually be satisfied a larger percentage of the time.

In seeking to be true givers who who fulfill their mates they must seek out and understand human needs so they are aware of where they need to direct the giving energies.

There are seven basic human needs just as there are seven rays, seven colors and seven notes. Here is the list that we shall discuss:

1 The need for union.

2 The need for love.

3 The need for experience.

4 The need for creative expression.

5 The need for knowledge.

6 The need for emotional fulfillment.

7 The need for order.

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Chapter Fourteen
Key Two – The Open Mind

Open-mindedness is, in the last analysis, open-communication and being an open communicator can greatly enhance a relationship. The amazing point is that everyone seems to view themselves as being open-minded. I have a friend who asks many people he meets if they think of themselves as being open-minded. He has asked hundreds of people and, without exception, all of them so far think they are as open-minded as the best of us. On the other hand, you and I know that there are many closed-minded people. We meet them every day – people who refuse to consider or even hear a divergent point of view.

After my friend asks concerning their open-mindedness, he then proceeds to converse with them in a logical sequence using unorthodox data which goes contrary to their preconceived notions. Nine times out of ten, the person will shut off communication on the subject; in other words, he closes down his mind. It is interesting to note that even after this mental shutdown, the person will still insist that he is open-minded. It is interesting to watch a person shut down his mind and afterwards insist that it is still open.

This is one of those subjects where we need to define our terms to clarify communication, for the numerous people who argue over the phrase obviously have different concepts of it.

An emotional person who shuts his mind off to enlightened communication will insist he is open-minded because he seems to use the following definition. To him open mindedness is: “A willingness to hear an associate’s point of view briefly expressed.” When that point of view contradicts something he ‘knows’ or feels to be right, the case is closed and the communication must immediately end or change direction. How can he consider something he knows is wrong? He is always willing to consider additional knowledge pertaining to points of view with which he already agrees.

Using this point of view, anyone can be open-minded, for all of us encounter additional light on concepts in harmony with our thinking. Nevertheless, it is how we handle opposing points of view that determines our true open-mindedness.

A truly open-minded person adheres more to the following definition: “A willingness to hear any opposing point of view and a willingness to exchange facts and data on the subject and follow a logical sequence with the data until a conclusion or consummation is achieved.” The mind remains open to two-way communication until this consummation is reached.

Closed-minded people shut down lines of communication as soon as a point of disagreement is apparent. They think that those who disagreed with them are closed-minded. They may feel that they expressed themselves clearly and the other party should therefore see as they do and agree with them. If others do not agree, they are judged as closed-minded whether the lines of communication are open or not.

To disagree, debate or argue is not being closed-minded, but, as the word implies, it means to close the mind down so there can be no further communication on the metal level.

It is amazing how many people accuse others of being close-minded merely because they disagree and then, immediately after making this accusation, they shut down their minds and refuse to communicate. Who is the open-minded one? Is it the person with lines of mental communication open and desiring to reach a conclusion, or the one who stated his case and shuts down?

In a two-way conversation where there is a mental disagreement, the first person who turns off communication is the more closed-minded of the two. In other words, he closes his mind first.

Every person alive has certain facts and data stored in their minds that is believed to be true. The test for open-mindedness comes when another person states a case that runs contrary to those “true facts.” An open-minded person does not disregard the data he believes to be true, but will be open to the possibility, however remote, that the data is not a fact. For instance, in arguing about addition, one does not disregard the “fact” that two plus two equals four. The acceptance of certain facts such as this is essential to create a chain of data to reason with. On the other hand, as impossible as it may seem, one must be open to the remote possibility that two plus two equals something else and be willing to carry on a two-way conversation about it if someone claims an argument to the contrary.

Open-minded people are not necessarily always correct. They will not always be convinced in an argument, but are much more likely to change their minds when presented with a sound argument over a weak one. A sound argument is one that commences with exploring a point of view and leading in a logical sequence to the conclusion.

Let us say that I believe that the moon is made of green cheese. I can believe in something even this ridiculous and still be open-minded. If someone comes along and tells me that the moon is not made of green cheese “because the Pope says so” am I closed-minded because I reject this argument?

No! Open-minded people need logic and facts to convince them. A mere statement of belief by another person will mean little. Why should the Pope’s opinion be more valid than our own?

If someone says that the moon is not made of green cheese because that is a silly notion and “I personally know it is not,” am I being closed-minded for not accepting this?

No. Again, no reasoning is presented; what I think I “know” is just as valid as what another person thinks he knows.

If someone says that the moon is not made of green cheese because the scientists and authorities say it is not, am I being closed-minded for not immediately accepting this?

Again, the answer would be no. The arguer has not told me why these authorities reached this conclusion and has presented no facts or reasoning.

Let us suppose that another person comes along and says: “The moon cannot be made of green cheese because the moon is not green. Look at the moon and see for yourself.”

Am I being closed-minded for rejecting this? Yes. This person is presenting more than a mere statement of either his opinion or another’s. He is offering me a chance to look and see for myself.

Am I being closed-minded if I say: “The moon certainly does not look green, but the gray color could be caused by a distortion of our atmosphere?”

No. This is a possibility that needs to be explored from my point of view, impractical though it may be.

After I have sorted this out, I may then look at the moon and ask myself: “Whatever made me think the moon is made of green cheese when the moon is not green? It must be made of grey cheese.”

Am I being closed-minded now?

No. No one has proven to me or presented a logical argument that the moon is not made of any kind of cheese. They merely proved it was not green and I accepted it. I am still open to communication on the subject.

Later another comes along and shows me some actual pictures taken from the moon’s surface and scientific data on core samples and says: “Here we have irrefutable evidence that the crust of the moon is, in many ways, similar to the earth and no cheese of any kind was found on the moon after a half dozen trips.”

Am I closed-minded if I reject this? Yes. The thought that the moon was made of cheese may have been a cherished belief of mine for decades and it may be very difficult to accept that this is not true, but I must strongly consider it or be a closed-minded person.

In the end, open-mindedness is open communication through the mind, or from mind to mind, until oneness is achieved. Two open-minded people placed together will eventually become one in thought if pertinent facts are available.

Open-mindedness between companions creates smooth sailing on the waters of life.

Communication is the foundation of all happiness. It is the prime key and ingredient. Communication is the door that leads men and women back into the presence of God. Communication reveals the path that leads to the kingdom of God that lies within every person.

When we can be completely without deception in all communication, we have then opened the door to overcome all things, and see our way out of the great illusion that holds us bound to mortality.

Pure communication reveals that there is no death. The Christ showed the result of pure communication when the tomb burst open and the immortal Son of God walked free. True communication eventually reveals to us that we are now what we have always been: Sons of God. We are as God created us. Deceptive communication tells us that we are much less than this. True communication leads us out of all illusion, but we must begin to walk the path to liberation by applying honest communication in normal day to day relationships with men and women until it becomes clear that they are not just men and women, but sons and daughters of the One God.

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Chapter Thirteen
Three Keys to Happiness
Key One – Communication

There are three basic keys to happiness in any relationship; they are communication, giving/receiving, and trust.

These three simple ingredients can lead the way to great happiness for anyone. It is important to contemplate the root source of happiness. It can be summed up in one sentence: Interaction with others that leads to unity. No one has ever been truly happy in relationship who has not had a hope of unity or union with another.

The first union that needs to be established is within the individual: the union of the personality with the soul, or the lower self with the higher self. When we communicate, give to, and trust the soul and subject the personality to it, we take a major step toward joyousness, and truly then begin to consciously seek merging and oneness with others.

Let us briefly discuss the three keys mentioned that lead to happiness in a relationship.

The first key is communication. Communication is the most important of all the keys, for it is the foundation upon which the other two are built. Contemplate this sentence for a moment: If any two people truly communicate, they will be one, for the vast majority of disagreements are caused by a failure to communicate.

All unhappiness in any relationship can be traced back to a failure to communicate by one or both parties.

When we examine common problems that occur in a marriage relationship, we can always discover a lack of communication. A divorce is, in the last analysis, a statement by one or both parties that says: “If you had communicated to me before I married you what is communicated to me now, I would have seen that our relationship wouldn’t work.”

There is one other rule we must take into account: People can communicate with each other only to the degree they have learned to communicate with their souls. Those who have had no soul contact will find that every communication they give or receive will have some deception in it. Words themselves veil true meanings and to have true communication, one must “read between the lines” or learn to look beyond the literal meanings of words.

An example of a communication problem is: A Catholic and a Protestant have a child who has become old enough to go to church. The two get into a heated disagreement over which religion he is going to raised in. This disagreement shows a lack of communication in three areas:

[a] Premarital: The couple should have communicated these feelings before they were married and reached an agreement then. Perhaps communication at that time would have caused each of them to seek elsewhere for a marriage partner.

[b] Communicating each other’s current feelings: If they truly understood each other’s feelings, they would be willing to compromise and reach some agreement in the interest of the child – providing they both have the interest of the child at heart.

[c] Communication with their souls: If they had true understanding, they would realize that in the end, it would not make a lot of difference which church the child started with, especially if the parents teach him the basic virtues found within both churches.

A second example: Joe likes to play cards with the boys every Wednesday night, and Mary does not like this, for she says she wants him to spend more time alone with her. Joe becomes upset because he feels restricted and nagged, and Mary is upset because she feels lonely and rejected.

Again, Joe’s need to spend time with his friends as well as Mary’s need for companionship should have been communicated before they were married. It may have made a difference in their decision to marry.

On the other hand, it is possible that a little communication in the present will solve the problem. Does Mary really need Joe home every night or does she just want more attention and security in their relationship? Is it possible that “I want you home tonight” is a deceptive communication? Is she avoiding saying what she means because of fear of rejection and hurt? Is she really saying “I want to be more a part of your life. I want you to think I am important and if you made me feel that way, I wouldn’t feel insecure if you left for an evening”?

Perhaps Joe thinks Mary is very important but has not communicated it to her. Perhaps it has been years since he bought her flowers, or wrote her a sweet note, or told her how much he cared for her. Communication leads the way to the fulfillment of both their needs.

A major cause and effect of discord in relationships is arguing. All arguments are caused by a lack of communication. A good marriage counselor can sit between almost any two people having an argument, explain in different words what the other party means, and the argument will usually cease because the other’s point of view is then understood. As long as both parties are receptive to communication this can be done.

Arguments have two basic causes:

[1] The two have a different interpretation of various words used in the argument. This different interpretation has not been communicated.

[2] The two are seeing from different levels of vision. No two levels of vision are exactly the same, but a real problem occurs when one of the arguers sees only on the emotional level and the other sees on the mental. The mental person must step down to the feeling world to reach agreement with the emotional person. It is very seldom one can get a person who is polarized in the emotions to follow a course of pure logic.

One would be surprised at how many times cause #1 occurs. Usually when this happens, both parties actually believe the same way, but have a different use of words. Here’s an example:

JOHN: Every time someone communicates, he is teaching in one way or another.

MARY: Do you mean that any time someone says anything, he is teaching?

JOHN: Yes.

MARY: That cannot be right. I have had many people speak things to me that did not teach me anything. In fact, many things were completely untrue.

JOHN: Even if the communication is untrue, there is some fact conveyed.

MARY: Let’s take an example. I take a bite of a steak and I say “This is delicious”, but you take a bite and don’t like it. How does your communication teach me anything? I know the steak is good independent of what you say.

JOHN: Nevertheless, I related to you the FACT of my distaste for the steak and that is my opinion. My opinion may not be true in your eyes, but it is a fact that it is my opinion and I taught you what I think.

MARY: But your opinion was nothing useable so I was not taught anything.

JOHN: It doesn’t matter whether you use it or not. I still taught you my opinion.

MARY: You did not teach me anything. Your opinion wasn’t even true from my point of view.

The problem here is that John and Mary are using a different definition of the word “teach”. John thinks that to teach is to relate any fact so it is understood, whether it is useful or not to the other person. Mary thinks that there is no teaching accomplished unless the person receiving the communication receives data he can use in her life.

Even though John’s opinion may not be true to Mary, it is still a fact that it is his opinion. He related the true fact of the way the steak tasted to him. In relating this fact to Mary, he was teaching by his definition.

By Mary’s definition, he was not teaching because she didn’t care what he thought of the steak. It was not useable knowledge to her.

The two will argue till doomsday and never reach agreement on this point until they agree on a common definition of the word “teach.” If they go to the dictionary and use the most accepted definition and abide by it, then they will find that they agree with each other after all. Perhaps they could arrive with two different terms to define what they felt about teaching. For instance, to teach would be the communication of any fact, useful or not, but an “effective teacher” would fit Mary’s idea of one who communicates useful information. Once they have defined their terms, they have no need to disagree unless one party is just plain stubborn.

Perhaps we can now see the truth of the following rule: “If two people agree on their definitions, and communicate on a logical basis, they will always reach some point of agreement.”

The second cause of arguments is that of seeing from different levels of vision. Some arguments from this category are over such things as capital punishment, religion, abortion, equal rights, racism, etc. If two people are arguing over an emotionally charged subject, then one may know that one or both members in the discussion are emotionally polarized. If both members stay on the plane of the mind, they can stay calm even in discussing such emotional subjects.

Thus, we have two basic types of arguments in this second category: a) Emotional verses emotional, and 2) Emotional verses logical. mind

Here we have an example of emotional verses emotional:

DON: All men are created equal. Blacks are just as good as you or I.

RON: I never met a black I liked. They are all lazy and want to live off the white man. They ought to be sent back to Africa.

DON: You’re a racist pig if I ever met one.

Ron then takes a punch at Don.

Notice that neither of the two men use any intelligent reasoning. Now we will examine an emotional verses a logical argument:

DON: All men are created equal. Blacks are just as good as you or I.

JOHN: It depends on what you mean by equal. In reality, no two people are alike, even in the same race.

DON: You sound like a racist to me.

JOHN: A racist is someone who does not believe in equal rights for the different races. I do believe in equal rights so how do you get the idea that I am a racist?

DON: You do not believe that blacks are equal.

JOHN: I said that I don’t believe that any two people are equal, or exactly alike. By that I don’t mean that they are not Equal in rights, or even potential. I’m talking about ability and personality. You didn’t seem to be listening. You and I are not exactly equal, or alike. For instance, I can run faster than you, and, at present, there is nothing you can do about it.

DON: Do you believe that the black is equal to the white?

JOHN: We all have unlimited potential and blacks and all races should be equal in rights, but in other ways one race will differ from another. For instance, I think that blacks are better basketball players than whites on the average, but, on the other hand, whites seem to excel at hockey.

DON: It sounds to me like you’re a racist.

JOHN: It sounds to me that we had better pin down your definition of a racist so we can talk intelligently.

Notice that Don thought John was a racist because he did not speak from the same feeling level as he did. John was exasperated because he was trying to speak logically to an emotionally polarized person. If Don could shift his angle of vision to the world of reason he would see that John does not LOOK at other races as being not as good as his own. Instead, he is trying to examine differences in a logical manner.

There is one other cause of disagreements and this is illusion. Illusions are caused by wrong core beliefs in a person’s thinking. All beliefs that branch off this core belief may seem completely logical and sound if the core belief is unexamined. But when the core belief is seen in the light of the mind, the illusionary nature of the branch beliefs are readily seen.

If one person believes that man is basically evil and another believes he is essentially good, then the two will disagree again and again on the branch beliefs. To reach harmony, they must both trace their branch beliefs back to the core belief and examine them under the light of reason. Only high mental thinkers will be able to do this. Emotionally charged people can never trace their beliefs back beyond the point of where their mind currently has its attention.

We can begin to see that true communication is difficult to achieve, but when it is we will be amazed at how simple, yet joyous it is.

There are two types of communication: (1) Deceptive communication. This hides the whole truth, consciously or unconsciously, and, in the end, creates restlessness and pain. (2) Honest communication. Here the feelings and thoughts are conveyed as accurately as possible. This leads to joyousness and peace. Some may argue that a certain amount of deceptive communication is necessary because “the truth hurts,” but what is not realized is that the truth only hurts when it follows a deceptive communication.

Let us say that a man is unfaithful to his wife and doesn’t want to tell her of the affair he is having because it will hurt her. Thus, he tells himself that he is doing right in deceiving her; but what he doesn’t consider is that he had to give her many deceptive communications before a secret affair could even take place. If he would have communicated fully with her from the beginning, he would have avoided producing the circumstances that create the hurt. Deception to avoid hurt only becomes necessary when a foundation has been laid by previous deception.

Honest communication is difficult for people because of two fears: 1) The fear of hurting others and 2) the fear of becoming vulnerable and hurting oneself.

Both fears are illusions in this upside-down shadow world. The truth is the opposite of the way most people think. Hurt is caused by lack of communication or deceptive communication – not honest communication. Honest communication only hurts when it exposes deceptive communication.

Every man and woman will admit that they want someone with whom they can communicate. Each person has a strong inward longing for real communion with another. How can we achieve this? How can we let down the walls and let our thoughts and feelings flow unchecked without fear of pain?

As long couples are polarized in the world of feeling and allow emotion to govern decision making, they will generally communicate with some degree of deception, for their emotional selves greatly fears pain for themselves and others, and is willing to deceive to avoid it. To achieve true communication, even on an emotional level, we must raise ourselves up to the plane of the mind and subject the emotions to mental control. The mind realizes that pain is a part of life, that some of it is inevitable, and accepts the fact that some of it will come our way. Because the mind accepts pain, it does not have unreasonable fear of it. Mentally polarized people can be more honest in communication because they do not deceive to avoid pain. They can then subject the emotions to the mind and command the emotions to express themselves in fullness. The mind also controls itself to a degree and expresses itself honestly, provided it is not under an illusion.

No two people can truly be one until the mind through the soul assumes control in the relationship and there is communication without deception from beginning to end. There will be no big hurts even if the two were to separate, but in a relationship of true communion, separation is rare.

Establishing true communication where it previously did not exist takes a great degree of aggressive energy. Honest communication does not occur among emotionally polarized people by “going with the flow”. The emotional self generally leads a person in the opposite direction of the pure reason of the non-deceptive mind. That is why the mind must assume control and literally force communication, as much as will be allowed. When all channels are opened up and a free flow of energy established, then true communication will be the natural state.

To learn honest communication, one must examine every thought expressed by ourselves and others, and look for deception in thoughts unexpressed. The speaker must constantly ask himself, “Have I truly communicated my thoughts in what I just said? Does the listener know how I feel about the subject?” If the answer is “no”, he should seek further clarification.

Example: John is starting up a new business and Joan seems eager to help him succeed. She is helping him with the books, answers the telephone and runs errands. The time comes, however, when Joan seems to lose interest and John finds that he has to badger her to get her to help him. He says to Joan:

“Joan, have you lost interest in the business? What’s the matter?”

“Nothing’s the matter” replies Joan. (Deceptive communication. Obviously something is the matter).

“Do you not think our business will succeed or what?”

“I suppose it will if you work at it hard enough”

“What do you mean if I work it? The business is ours, not just mine.”

“Ours?” she says coldly. “It is no concern of mine. I’ve got a lot of other concerns to keep me busy. I’m tired and I’m going to bed.”

Joan then rises and walks off to the bedroom. John is baffled by her behavior.

Every sentence Joan has spoken here has been deceptive. She did have a problem. She teaches an aerobics class and wanted John to show some interest in it, but he ignored her completely. He also made no comment when she lost ten pounds and her figure improved. Her feelings are deeply hurt. She is afraid to communicate her exact feelings for fear she will be patronized by John and hurt more deeply. Thus, she suppresses her feelings, but suppressed feelings do not die . . . they grow. Joan’s feelings grow into an unconscious attack on John. She strikes at John by ignoring his business in the same way he ignored her.

The problem is that now she has made John upset, the two suffer a loss of affection and the channels of communication are cut off more than ever. At this point the solution to the problem must come from John. Joan is upset and totally focused on her feelings to the extent she does not want to even think about the problem or solution. John must ask himself what he did to hurt her. He must retrace his steps to the first sign of discord. What was the original thing he did to hurt Joan? Was it the aerobics class? He can see signs of how he hurt her by examining how she tries to hurt him. If he can guess accurately and approach Joan with the real problem and show a willingness to solve it then the lines of communication can be reopened.

It would have made everything much easier, however, if Joan had not been deceptive in the first place. When the hurt first occurred, she should have said:

“John, do you realize how it makes me feel when you ignore projects that I am interested in while, at the same time, I am showing interest and enthusiasm for things you like? It makes me feel like you are the only one that counts in this family and that nothing I do matters. It makes me feel like not even helping you in the business.”

“I didn’t realize I was ignoring you. I guess I’ve had a lot of things on my mind.”

“How would you feel if I dropped all interest in your business and acted like I didn’t give a damn?”

“I’d feel pretty bad. I depend a lot on you,” said John.

“I want to depend on you too,” said Joan. “I need your support.”

“I’m sorry honey, but I’ll tell you this. From now on you’re going to see a big improvement.”

Here we see that honest communication would have prevented any major hurt and alienation from taking place. Fortunately, John was yielding and willing to give in to Joan’s communicated needs. This willingness to give is the second ingredient which creates happiness.

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Chapter Twelve
The Mystery of Romantic Energy

The correctness and incorrectness of the sharing of sex energies has been a cause of debate for thousands of years. We have covered several principles seeking to bring enlightenment in this area, but the subject must be more deeply explored. We must correctly understand the right use of this power for without understanding we always follow the lower way.

Another factor making right understanding more complicated is the fact that the right use of sex energy is different for different people at varying stages of consciousness and evolution. The right use for each individual is that highest use which his consciousness can accept.

There are four basic ways individuals look at sex:

[1] The first way is by one who thinks that the giving and receiving of physical pleasure is natural, and that he should enjoy it with whomever he finds attractive. Such a person will ask himself: “What is the harm in enjoying sex with whomever I want and obtaining physical fulfillment?” His answer is usually, “I can see nothing wrong with it, for I give and receive pleasure.”

These people receive no great condemnation from their souls for the way they use sex energy, for they use it according to the best of their knowledge. Nevertheless, because of natural law, there can be suffering from feelings of emptiness and lack of fulfillment on the emotional level. From time to time, they will feel impulses from their souls prompting them to greater discrimination and a more correct use of sex energy. Even though there is emotional sharing, this attitude makes it difficult for this person to merge with the deeper emotional energies. This is the next field of endeavor to explore.

These individuals share the least amount of energy in sex and are therefore able to enjoy free sexual license with little affecting their conscience. A basic rule is: The less energy shared in sex, the less discriminating the person need be in its use and selection of partners. The more energy shared in sex, the more discriminating the person must be in its use.

If there were no energy shared at all, then there could be no “sin” in pure physical sex. For instance, the animals do not share energies in the way that humans do; thus, they are under no condemnation for their use of sex. The basic point to remember is that sex is not good or evil because of the physical act itself, but because of the manner in which the energies connected with the act are directed.

[2] The second way of looking at sex is viewing it with the idea that any sexual relationship is good if romantic love and sharing of emotional feeling are involved. “If no one gets hurt, it’s OK” is the general idea expressed here.

A person with this viewpoint sees no reason to hold back his or her sexual expression as long as there is a feeling of romantic love between two people. He or she feels that sex for physical satisfaction only, with no love interest, is wrong, but can rarely give a logical explanation as to why. They merely feel that love should be there for somehow it makes it more satisfying.

For a person at this stage of thinking, this is the most correct use of sex energy. It may be quite fulfilling, but it still leaves the participant short of full completeness, for a full sharing and union is not accomplished at this stage of thinking.

[3] The third attitude toward sex is the black and white view. Sex sanctioned by the church is the only right sex, and sex outside of this sanction is wrong sex, a terrible sin. People at many different levels of consciousness get caught in this rigid way of thinking. For those who are governed by their emotions, this way of thinking can be beneficial to them and lay a foundation for stability and security in relationships. Those who are of higher evolution want logical explanations as to why sex is good or bad in different circumstances and feel as if they are caught in a trap by religious teachings.

Those who govern their sex lives purely by black and white religious teachings will also fall short of fullness. One major problem is that they often suffer guilt feelings over many of their sexual desires. A person may desire to experiment with his spouse or find the body of a passing female attractive and feel guilty because he thinks God or his religious authorities would disapprove. This person is always struggling with “temptation” and is seldom happy with himself.

Such people need to break their minds free from rigid rules and govern themselves by true principles. They need to understand why something is good or evil and not merely believe a doctrine because someone has told them it is true. Religious teachings generally guide mankind in the right direction, but their virtue is often destroyed by a black and white attitude. “The letter (of the law) killeth, but the spirit (of the law) giveth life.” (II Cor. 3:6)

[4] The fourth attitude is that of those who are evolved enough to understand the true principles governing sexual expression.

These they understand either because they intuitively perceive them, or have been taught by someone else. In either case, their sexual actions are governed by knowledge and understanding. This attitude is rare indeed in today’s world. However, if a clear teaching on the matter gained wide circulation, the number of people in the fourth category would be dramatically increased.

The basic physical sex urge in humanity propels us toward sex because we sense an urge to union, and sex is a symbol of union in the physical world. The higher energies of desire, love and purpose also seek union, and true fulfillment only comes when all human energies in the male-female relationship achieve union. It makes sense then that anyone who gains a true knowledge of a path to greater fulfillment will seek with all his energies to achieve it.

People who have not shared all the energies leading to complete sexual union and fulfillment sense that there is something more available to them, but know not how to find it. On the other hand, once this greater fulfillment is experienced, even once, neither heaven or hell can stop that person from seeking and eventually discovering all the laws of unity. As knowledge is then increased, the numbers of individuals who use sex energy correctly correspondingly increases.

The person with the fourth attitude mentioned above understands the sharing principle governing sex and all relationship interactions.

To understand the sharing principle, one must look upon all individuals as units of desire energy. Each person, male and female, possesses one unit each of solar plexus energy. This is the energy of desire and romantic love. The sharing of this energy must be carefully regulated by spiritual law because the wrong dispersal of it creates many of the negative emotions, feelings, and actions of mankind. Feelings of jealousy, anger, and emptiness primarily result when this law is broken and those who suffer these feelings usually have no idea as to the root cause.

Each individual possesses one unit of desire energy. As long as he or she maintains a complete and full unit of this energy, they will not be afflicted with jealousy, anger or emptiness. For instance, if participants have little association with or desire for romantic companionship and are content to be alone and keep this unit of desire energy all to themselves, they will maintain the one unit within them and not suffer jealousy, anger or emptiness because of relationships. When, however, they meet potential mates, sends out desire energy, and develops a romantic love toward him or her, they find that they are no longer a complete energy unit. To be complete (as far as energy is concerned), the female must send to him the same amount of desire energy that he sends to her. If he does not receive it, he will feel unbalanced and will be forced, sooner or later, by his nature to take his energy back and once again become stable.

Let us take Jim, for instance who has been a happy single person for the past five years. He finds himself in a state of balance for he is sending out no romantic energy and keeps his entire unit to himself; that is until Sue crosses his path. He finds her very attractive and after a date decides to go out on a limb and send her 25% of his emotional unit. She is not interested and does not return it. Jim then feels out of balance for a few weeks until he gets the message that she is not interested and gradually draws it back in.

Jim may not realize it but it is not his destiny to remain single. A short time later he meets Betty and bravely ventures forth 25% of his romantic energy again. This time the reaction is different. Betty is attracted to Jim and returns the energy with a risky 50%. Now she is the one taking the chance because she is giving 50% for 25% and if she does not draw more energy out of Jim she will feel out of balance. Jim, on the other hand, feels great. He takes 25% of her 50% and adds it to the 75% he already kept inside him and he now has his 100% stable unit with a 25% surplus to play with should he decide to venture forth some more energy.

The truth of the matter is Jim felt burnt by Sue (his previous relationship) and he is hesitant to let down any more walls so he keeps his sending energy at 25%. On the other hand, Betty is beginning to feel short-changed and unstable for she only has her 50% plus Jim’s 25% (that he is sending) or a total of 75% of her unit. She now reaches a point where she must draw more out of Jim or end the relationship so she tells Jim: “Either we get serious about each other or we’re history.”

That does it. Jim wakes up. He likes Betty and does not want to lose her. He increases his energy output to 75% and Betty responds likewise. That is enough to do the trick. They then spend the next several years sharing between 60-80% of their energy together, always trying for that 100% but never quite achieving it. They are both afraid to let down those last few walls.

Then comes a time when Sue bounces back into the picture. Now she cannot have Jim she finds him attractive and sends him 25% of her energy. Jim and Betty are both sharing around 80%, but Jim is flattered and returns to Sue her 25% plus another 15% for a total of 40%. Now he is only sending Betty 40% and she feels a definite void and asks Jim: “Is there another woman?”

“Of course not,” he responds. “That is your imagination.”

He says this halfway believing it because physically he has been completely faithful. He does not realize that he has robbed Betty of her energy.

While Jim is leaking out energy to Sue, Bob (a family friend) picks up on Betty’s need for emotional support and invites her to lunch. He’s always liked her as a friend, but never felt impressed to show her romantic attention until now for he feels her need for energy. He accepts her 40% and sends her 80%. She responds by withdrawing the remaining 40% from Jim and sending an entire 80% to Bob. They immediately have an affair.

Now Jim is beside himself. He has a 15% overflow to Sue and 40% to Betty. 55% of his energy is missing. When Betty is late getting home from work that night, he is suspicious. He questions her. She is defensive. He knows something is wrong and does not want to lose her. He becomes desperate. He withdraws the 25% from Sue (which causes her to feel strangely out of balance) and pleadingly sends an additional 10% from within he has never given her before.

He is now sending Betty 90% and getting back 0%. He is devastated and almost loses his will to live – unless he can get her back.

Now we have put our point across let us make a long story short. Jim and Betty patch up their marriage, but because of guilt and pain they are both hesitant to share more than 60% of the energy unit for some years to come. Jim never does realize that his “innocent” yielding to Sue by sending her some of his feelings was the indirect cause of the whole crisis to the marriage. All he can think of is: “Why did Betty do this to me?”

On the other hand, Betty is not without responsibility. She could have resisted Bob and put her energy into restoring balance, but she would have never had the temptation from Bob if Jim had not taken energy that was rightfully hers.

Let us sum up the key to romantic stability which is this:

Each person has one unit of romantic energy and when the sharing of that energy begins, the amount shared must be returned to maintain peace and stability.

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Chapter Eleven
The Meeting of The Minds

We have covered principles governing the sharing of two out of three of our basic energies: our desire nature and the heart. The full sharing of even these two energies is very rare, but the sharing of all three – desire, heart, and mind – is almost unknown among men and women at present. A union of minds is an almost idealistic goal, but it is one that will soon be achieved by a few advanced souls who will pave the way to complete fulfillment for the rest of humanity. In several hundred more years, this will be a much talked about subject.

Up to now, a complete union of minds usually occurs between a Master such as the Christ and a dedicated disciple; this is sometimes called the second comforter and was mentioned by the Master: “And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you forever; Even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him: but ye know him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be IN you.” (John 14: 16-17)

The Christ mentioned this principle once again: “Behold I stand at the door and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I WILL COME IN TO HIM, and will sup with him, and he with me.” (Rev. 3:20)

The principle described this verse is sometimes referred to as a divine possession, or overshadowing. A member of the Hierarchy such as the Christ or one of the Masters associated with him will project his own mental and living essence to dwell in the body of a disciple for a period of time. During this time, the disciple’s body will house two minds at once and the interplay of energy the disciple will feel will produce sensations of union in a much higher wavelength and intensity than was the union of the heart energies.

It is the destiny of man and woman to eventually receive this, the highest of unions. Presently, highly developed men and women share a small endowment of mental energy, but that interplay they may feel in the mind during lovemaking and other times is generally only a slight foreshadowing to the greater union to come.

The question then naturally arises as to what a couple must do to achieve this, the highest of unions, so man and woman can achieve fulfillment and make love simultaneously in the three worlds of human endeavor.

To share the heart center, the two must be masters over the world of emotion; to share the world of the mind, both must be masters over the mind. To be a mental master, the mind must be subject to all intuitive flashes given to it through the soul. If the mind does not “obey” the higher self and comprehend principles delivered to it, it becomes very limited in its usefulness and eventually becomes destructive. In esoteric language, it becomes “the slayer of the real”. In other words, without the connecting link of the intuition the mind determines that illusion is real, and because it is full of facts and does not understand all true principles, it rejects or “slays” the true reality.

For instance, the mind, relying on facts only, often rejects the idea that a higher power than human exists because it cannot be concretely proven. This reality is then slayed until the seeker intuitively grasps the principle of the One Life. The individual then readjusts the facts to fit the principle and the reality once rejected is brought to life again.

The mind must be led out of deception and illusion through the soul by the power of intuition that connects us with the God Within, the source of all true principles. Then concrete reasoning is directed by the soul. At this point, one still uses freewill to choose to accept or reject the intuitive instruction, and if it is used correctly, then the power of Will is used to direct the mind to comprehend and direct reasoning according to soul impulses.

When two people reach this point, they can finally see “eye to eye” as it is called in the Bible. When a male and female reach this plateau, they can begin to experience celestial sharing of the mind energy. The mental matter that composes the highest part of their aura will intermingle and great will be their union.

To achieve the highest possible union with the opposite sex, a person should approach a relationship from the “top down” (or from the mind down to the body), and not from the “bottom up,” as is the case with most people.

To approach a perspective partner from the top down, one must start the relationship on a mental level; next he proceeds to the emotional energies, and last to the physical union.

The natural approach is to seek first a physical union, and if this is successful, then proceed to higher areas of union. The problem with this latter approach is that a physical relationship entered into without the interplay of the emotions and the mind merely stimulates the sexual energies and makes it much more difficult to focus on the higher energies later. Women instinctively know this is true, even though few are able to logically express the reason in words. Most females are repelled by the male who wants instant sex. She wants to be known at least on an emotional level (desire plane) first. She wants to share some feelings so the physical relationship can have some meaning.

One can tell which energy controls people’s actions by observing how they initiate relationships. If they attempt physical sex at the earliest possible moment, then they are motivated most strongly by sacral energy. If they attempt to win a partner first by sharing romantic or deep emotional feelings, then they are centered in desire or solar plexus energies. If they attempt to first win the partner through the mental sharing of thoughts and ideas with no emotional involvement, then they are centered in the mind. If they attempt to first win the partner through the sharing of pure love or acceptance, as in a close friendship, then the centering is in the heart energies.

Examples Of Higher Sharing

An example of a person centered in the heart energy and initiating a relationship is as follows:

Jim’s consciousness is centered in the heart and is motivated by Love-Wisdom. He meets Sue and is impressed by her, and wants to investigate the possibility of a long-term relationship with her. He finds her physically attractive, but does not like the idea of becoming physically intimate too soon. He may not be able to explain why, but he has always wanted sex to be more than physical gratification.

He also resists the “natural” inclination he feels to capture her emotionally too soon; he feels this would interfere with his judgment as to whether she would truly be a good partner. He sees love as something more than deep emotional involvement. He considers a deep friendship as more important than romantic love.

Even though Jim is very attracted to Sue, he resists the impulse toward physical involvement and first tries to make friends with her, just as he would approach a male that he likes. He feels that if he can look upon her, first, not as a male or female, but as a good friend that he can truly love without romantic attachment, then a permanent relationship can work.

In his friendship with Sue, he often finds himself in situations where he knows he could stimulate in her an emotional-desire love by speaking the right words, or making the right gestures, but these inclinations he resists until the time is right. He wants to first take the friendship to the critical level before moving to a romantic involvement.

He also finds himself in situations where knows he could stimulate Sue’s physical desire for him. There are times when he knows a touch, hug, or squeeze at the right moment would stir desire energies within her. These inclinations he also resists, for the stimulation of these energies would hinder his purpose to an even higher degree.

Jim’s friends think he is a bit odd for not making the “moves” on Sue, for she is very attractive, but he is not concerned about what they think. Jim is most interested in establishing a beautiful relationship.

One person, however, is very impressed, and that is Sue. Sue finds that she is very attracted to Jim, but has not yet become close enough to him emotionally to experience those deep longing feelings that she has had with other men in the past. Yet, she feels that if something could break the ice, she could be closer to Jim emotionally than anyone she has ever met. She finds that she is pleased that Jim respects her enough as a person to establish a non-romantic friendship. She thinks Jim is refreshingly different and waits with quiet anticipation for him to advance the relationship toward a greater involvement.

Finally, the time comes when Jim feels the moment is right. He speaks loving words to Sue. He tells her how much he admires her and wants to get closer to her. He touches and caresses her at the right time and looks in her eyes in ways that expresses his feelings toward her. Waves of desire and intense emotional feelings pass between them and at this moment they enjoy togetherness as they never have before. They have an enjoyment and fullness that is never known between those who begin at the physical or even emotional level and try to move up. By starting at their highest consciousness and moving down, Jim and Sue find they can experience a fullness in three levels of energy.

A second example is of one who is centered in the mental energies:

David is a thinker, a person of ideas. He is a person of logic and reason, and draws much inspiration from the world of the intuition. He often feels like a stranger in a strange land and tires of having to constantly reach down to an emotional level to establish relationships with women. He feels that he usually has only a surface relationship with most of the people he has met. He has never met anyone that he would like to make a permanent bond with, but he is always looking.

One day he met Elizabeth. He had a short conversation with her and found her stimulating, so he decided to check out the possibility of further involvement.

Even though she is very attractive, an immediate physical relationship is the last thing on his mind. He finds that he is not the slightest bit tempted to explore that area yet.

Elizabeth is also a person of strong feelings and David can sense this, but he consciously avoids any action or speech to stimulate those feelings, for he knows that a too-soon emotional involvement will often fog the mind so one cannot view a relationship in correct perspective.

David is not even interested in establishing a deep friendship even though he senses that this could be done quite quickly. A deep friendship may have the disadvantage of pulling his mind the wrong direction if this girl is not what he is looking for.

And what is David looking for?

David has been a searcher all his life, always looking for new truth and ever seeking to expand his consciousness. He has a strong sense of mission and seeks someone to help him accomplish the directions given to him by his soul. He will be interested in Elizabeth if she is a true seeker of light and truth.

He decides to test Elizabeth’s response and seeks another encounter with her. He asks her some questions and explains to her some of his philosophy and life goals. He finds that she is very interested and curious. She asks him many questions on various topics she has wondered about throughout her life and is stimulated by David’s answers.

David is now convinced that Elizabeth is a true seeker and may help him fulfill his life’s purpose. He begins to establish a deep friendship with her. Then, when the time is right, he proceeds downward from the heart energies, just as Jim did. Finally, when they begin their physical relationship, the two make a bonding covenant and are joined together for time indefinite through the energies of the soul.

David and Elizabeth experience a sharing of energies felt by few people on the earth and seek for a fullness of sharing at all four energy levels. The degree they both share is dependent upon the sensitivity of both to the energies of the soul and spirit. Generally speaking, the sharing of both cannot be much higher than the degree of soul contact experienced by the weaker partner. Thus, if Elizabeth is at a lower level of consciousness than David, David will have much incentive to lift her up for the benefit of both. Only by lifting her consciousness can David share in the highest energies with her.

After the bonding is consummated, David and Elizabeth share not only the energies of the heart and mind to a high degree, but also experience emotional and physical fulfillment that is felt by few. Highly evolved people seek not for fulfillment on spiritual levels only, but view all levels as one great chord where all the notes must vibrate to product harmony. The physical and emotional notes are to be played as well as the higher ones.

The physical and emotional worlds are as much of a creation of God as are the higher worlds, and when all creation is viewed as one, all things are spiritual. All energies are spiritual if they are directed toward the evolutionary path. To be evolutionary, the physical and emotional energies must adjust their vibration so they are in harmony with the heart and mind energies.

Highly evolved entities tune the chord of their energies from the highest to the lowest, and thus all the notes in the energy chord can vibrate harmoniously. If one tries to tune from the physical to the higher notes, the whole chord will sound off key and total fulfillment will be impossible.

All energies and creations vibrating in their pure state are good. It is only the inharmonious mixture or blending that produces poorly sounding chords.

We have stated that the desire nature must be directed and subjected to the higher energies of the heart, mind, and soul before the individual can correctly use those energies and proceed to higher levels of consciousness. If one is controlled by lower desires, a limit has then been placed on progression on the Path.

There are two basic desires seeking for mastery over the consciousness. The first is the desire of the lower or false self. When we speak of mastering desire, we speak of this. Second, there is the desire of the higher or true self. This is sometimes referred to as the Spirit or God Within.

As we evolve, we will find that these two desires are often in conflict. However, a person of low evolution will be almost entirely ruled by lower selfish desires. As progress is made, the higher desires are felt and they seem to conflict with the lower. Seekers fear they will have to sacrifice the wants of the false self and thus are slow to hearken to the impulses of the higher desires. However, the magnetic pull of the higher self increases, and sooner or later the aspirant yields to spiritual desire which leads to union. When this happens, one finds that the lower desires are not extinguished, but are instead put under the direction of the higher energies and the fulfillment of all desire is enjoyed with a greater degree of exquisiteness.

The desires of the lower self include all desires for the separated self, where the person disregards the group good. Lower desires are usually based on the physical or emotional need of one or two individuals and are often called personality needs. Higher desires do not concern personalities but souls, and in this realm one soul is as important as another. Those who are governed by lower desire seek to do their own little wills. Those who are governed by higher desire seek to say with the Christ: “Father, not my will, but thine be done.”

When the lower desires govern decision-making, the Son of God that is within each of us is bound in chains and has no freedom of expression. When the higher desires govern decision-making, the Son of God is released from prison and sits upon the throne to direct the lower self to greater expression and fulfillment. Thus, the whole self becomes free. This is one of the meanings of the injunction: “He who seeks to save his life (lower self) shall lose it (not find what he is seeking) and he who shall lose his life for my sake shall find it.” When we yield up (or lose) the lower self to the higher, we find the greatest expression of the whole.

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Chapter Ten
Correct Use of Energy

We now are laying a foundation of knowledge that will help us understand what is good and evil in sex, but one more important point must be understood: We must define the core principle behind that which produces good and that which produces evil.

Since we are in a state of evolution, good is that which tends to accelerate us toward union with God and/or our fellow men and women.

Evil is that which causes us to separate ourselves from God, our souls, or our fellow men and women.

It has been said that there is only one sin . . . the sin of separateness.

Does this mean that we should have sex with anyone who is willing in the hope that we can share a union with many souls and move away from separateness? No. This idea is part of a great illusion. Casual sex leads to separateness and greatly hinders union in the three worlds. Therefore, it is “evil”, or a mistake. The commandments given in the scriptures condemn casual sex because the Guides of the race know that it leads to separateness and not union.

When a person engages in casual sex with whoever is willing, there is generally only a sharing of the sacral energies and sometimes a partial sharing of solar plexus energies.

When a person is more selective about his sex partners and tries to pick only those with whom he feels some affinity or “love” toward, then there can be close to a full sharing of both sacral and solar plexus centers.

Most of humanity have settled for this second level of fulfillment. We feel inside that there is something more, but know not how to obtain it. It is like a dream that we are prepared to not have fulfilled. As seekers evolve, however, they find that their deep feelings were not a dream and when they taste the joys of the higher unions, they find that nothing in heaven or hell will stop them from finding the right mate and entering into the full joy of the Lord.

Before a person can enter into the higher unions, certain laws must be followed. The joys of God are not found on the broad path, but on the so-called “straight and narrow”. Before there can be a union of the heart centers, the aspirant must learn to master the emotional energy streaming from the solar plexus. This emotional energy must be subject to the control of the mind. Before the mind energies can be shared, the mind must be dominated by the intuition. The mind must be subject to the control of the soul energies, or the God Within. The mind must not “slay the real” with its concrete reasoning, but must be subject to seeing and understanding the real and the true as presented through the intuition, or communication from the God Within, the source of all true principles.

Those who only shared solar plexus and sacral energies yet desire to also enjoy heart energies, they must do two things. First, they must find mates who are at the correct point of evolution, as previously discussed.

Secondly, the indiviidual must subject all the desire energy of the solar plexus to the control of the mind. Only in this way can the blazing fires of the desire center be sublimated and directed to the heart. The heart energy then circulates and much greater union becomes possible.

To circulate and blend the heart energies during and after sex, a strong commitment or understanding must be made and faithfully kept between the male and female. Sex without a commitment or bond only stimulates the desire energies, which drown out the finer vibrations of the heart. This is why the revelations from God to man have always encouraged him to make covenants with his mate and have put great emphasis on not breaking them. These commandments about the sex act were designed to inspire greater union.

Without a boding commitment, or strong understanding, the desire energy overshadows the heart energy. Secondly, without a commitment, there cannot be a full sharing, even if some heart energies are active; strong desire energies feed many personality fears that cause partners to throw up walls of protection from hurt. These are walls of separation. Without a covenant and trust, people fear union and fear to share all their energies because if those energies are suddenly withdrawn, great hurt automatically follows. Thus, all those who have casual sex with no commitment create barriers of negative energy that militate against a full sharing of the heart – all because they are afraid of being hurt.

To prepare oneself for a full sharing, one must mentally accept the possibility of being hurt, be prepared to deal with it if it comes, and then dismiss it from the mind. Then one must make a covenant (marriage or private covenant) with someone whom he or she believes they can trust. Then they should make a concentrated effort to lower all the protective walls and maintain a full communication and sharing. If both parties feel secure in their covenant, are matched with the correct mate, and control desire by honoring their agreement, they may experience the sharing of the higher heart energies. During intercourse, they should make a concentrated effort to release the pure energies of love from the heart with no inhibition.

In some cases, there may be a sharing with no vocalized covenant. The understanding both parties have with each other may create the same trusting effect as a covenant. For instance, both parties may have a silent understanding that they will be faithful to each other. The soul may look upon this in the same way it looks upon a covenant, but it is rare for a silent understanding to create the same effect as a vocalized covenant, which creates spheres of trust and understanding.

In another light, we can say that to raise the sharing energies to the heart center, sex, as well as other energies, must be directed toward Purpose. Purpose is the unifying energy of God and Purpose is only expressed in actions that lead toward union with God or union with each other, which leads toward God. Purpose is like an eternal stairway where each action is a step which leads to another and still another without end, until Union is achieved. If you see an action ending with only one, two or three steps, then you know that action fills a finite objective and does not represent the true energy of Purpose.

On the other hand, if an action is only one step on an unlimited stairway with no end in sight Purpose is being represented.

If one has sex to merely fulfill desire, then the steps created by the action shortly reach an end and the objective is fulfilled. The energy is then dissipated and sent back to the solar plexus center where the energy of desire is recharged and sent out again on a blind mission seeking fulfillment.

When the energy of desire is controlled by the mind and the mind is directed by the soul, then the desire energy is directed upward toward the heart and head, and this creates a step on the eternal stairway of Purpose; thus, heart energy begins to circulate and two people may share a higher union enveloped in the Love of God. Once it is felt in fullness, desire will never hold the pilgrims completely in its chains again. They will see the benefits of mastering desire. Even a spiritual person must see some benefit before proceeding upon the path of return.

Very few people ever completely master desire as it is expressed through sex, money, and power because the energies directed toward separateness and selfishness are strong indeed. To be mastered, all desire connected with these energies must be directed by the mind toward the greatest universal good one’s consciousness can comprehend.

Concerning sex, the solar plexus will say: “I have desire-love toward you; therefore, it is good that we join together in sex.”

The mind directed by the soul will sense this language of the lower energies as saying: “I desire you because you fulfill some of my needs and I want you to fulfill that desire not tomorrow, but now.”

If the mind’s translation is correct, then sex will not produce a sharing of the heart energies, for only an object of satisfaction is sought, and there is no connection with the eternal stairway of Purpose. To make this connection, the mind directed by the soul must say: “I will have sex with you when I see a possibility of making the act a step on the eternal stairway of Purpose. I will have sex when eternal union with no walls is the goal. This can only be insured by a timeless covenant. When this is the case, the energies of pure unselfish Love will surround us and we will achieve fulfillment few humans have known.”

Concerning money, the solar plexus will say: “I want to provide for my family and give them all the finer things in life they deserve; I want my children to have those things I never had as a child”.

The mind directed by the soul will interpret this as: “You want money only for your own pleasure. Even the things you want for your family are so you can have greater personal fulfillment. Your goals concerning money are mere objectives that will have a separative end. . .

To direct money toward Purpose, one must seek a way to use it so it does the greatest good for the largest number of people. It is true that one must have enough money for personal and family needs before giving to other causes, but one must raise higher than just personal gratification if to fulfill Purpose and control desire. The individual must seek some action with surplus money that will in some way, great or small, benefit the whole world, and aid mankind toward the path of Union. A covenant can also apply toward money and aid in the conquest of desire. To achieve this, a person can make a strong individual or group commitment or promise to consecrate all his surplus money to some effort that will further the evolutionary development of mankind. This is a completely selfless act and tends to transmute the lower desire energies into heart energies that can lead to oneness.

Concerning power, the solar plexus will say: “I want power to assert myself in areas where I have leadership abilities and to have the freedom, I need to carry out responsibilities related to these abilities. People like myself are natural leaders. Others need us to direct and guide them.”

The mind directed by the soul will interpret this as: “My desire nature seeks freedom for its own expression only, even at the expense of others. It wants to feed its pride and be recognized by men and women as being important and special. It wants to exert authority over other men and women even against their will, believing that it knows what’s good for them better than they know themselves.”

To direct power toward Purpose, disciples must use whatever authority they possess to serve and not command service. They must ever remember the injunction of the Master: “He who is the greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven is the servant of all.” They should use any power they have to serve and benefit the whole human race as much as possible – not just the insignificant self. The power and authority people have must not be under the direction of their desire nature, or they will become as the unrighteous dictator over a tiny realm. A man or woman’s power must be under the direction of the mind and under the influence of the soul. This will aid the transmuting of solar plexus energy to the heart.

All disciples must master the three energies of sex, money, and power and subject the solar plexus desires concerning them by the power of the mind, or else they will be “damned” (or stopped) in their progression and unable to move ahead in the realm of the soul.

For each person, there is one particular energy upon which desires are most centered and will be his greatest “temptation” to overcome. Some people are very generous and unselfish with their money, but are very selfish with sex and love. Others have no problem with sex, but have a strong desire to control and dictate to others. In still others, money is their major ruin. All people have some pull from their desire nature to use all three energies incorrectly, but there is always one that is a special problem to them.

Of the three energies, sex is the hardest to put in the right perspective because error in the misuse of sex is difficult to pinpoint and realize. Few have all the money and power they want but most have opportunities to misuse sex, and sooner or later we are all tempted to do so.

The sex urge is basically the urge toward union with the Divine. It is that power that attracts spirit and matter and creates form for incarnating lives. All lives that do not express desire in the sexual relationship yet follow the natural flow of nature are under no “sin.” The problems concerning sex are always centered around that part of humanity that has little or no initiative to subject desire to the mind.

Keep in mind that it is important to control he desire nature, but to not suppress. Suppression of desire is very dangerous, for a desire suppressed will always surface again with greater strength. When desire is controlled and directed by the mind under direction of the soul, it is not suppressed. Often desire will be less inhibited than ever, for the mind is wise enough to always find an outlet for desire and recognizes that desires should be fulfilled according to law, but they must be directed so their expression is constructive and harmless. To become harmless, the desire nature must be checked periodically by the mind and then redirected in paths of greater fulfillment.

A person whose desires are not subject to the mind/soul will always feel somewhat unsatisfied whereas one who subjects his desires will ironically have greater and more intense fulfillment of them.

It is a giant step in the progression of the soul for one to control desire with the mind which is linked to the soul. It is a difficult step, but it produces a giant leap in the expansion of consciousness of the individual, and places him in spiritual contact with a group of other lives who have “overcome”. The feeling of loneliness one sometimes feels begins to fade and is replaced by a group life force. Now the intuition begins to develop at a fast pace, and the person begins to gain power to initiate spiritual causes. Thus, he or she is called a disciple as well as an initiate.

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Chapter Nine
Sex and Knowing God

As we arrive at the cusp of the New Age men and women are asking questions about the right use of sex as they never have before. Many have broken off from the authority syndrome and are trying to decide for themselves concerning the use of sex.

Let us shed some light on this subject which has, in the past, been approached with such philosophical obscurity. To comprehend the answers, one must understand the purpose of marriage and sex as it applies to man and woman.

The Bible gives us some help here. In the Old Testament Hebrew two words are translated as “man.” The first is ADAM and the second is IYSH. ADAM is sometimes translated as “man” and sometimes literally as “Adam.” ADAM is not the name of a person, but of a racial being that is the hermaphroditic combination of male and female in the image of God: “Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called THEIR name Adam, in the day when they were created.” Gen 5:2 On the other hand, the word IYSH refers to the single male only.

The word ADAM should not have been translated “man” as IYSH was for it refers to a certain type of man. Genesis 2:26-27, where we have a description of the sixth creation day, is an example of ADAM being translated as “man” in all Bibles. Let’s transliterate ADAM as it reads in the Hebrew as “Adam” and see how it reads: “And God said, Let us make Adam in our image, after our likeness…So God created Adam in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.”

This scripture is especially interesting when we read it in the light of the next chapter which tells us that “on the seventh day God ended his work…” Gen 2:2 On the seventh day, then, we are told that the “end” or last work of God was the creation of woman. She was taken out of the man and brought to him: “And Adam said, This is the bone of my bones, and the flesh of my flesh: she shall be called woman because she was taken out of man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Gen 2:23-24

If woman was not created until the seventh day then who was the female mentioned as existing during the sixth day?

The amazing answer as we shall illustrate is that the male and female were united in one body during the sixth day and were divided in two on the seventh day.

Enlightenment on this mystery is revealed in the Hebrew word for God. In the first part of Genesis ELOHIYM is used. This is a strange word because it is plural and has been literally translated as “Gods.” The mystifying part is that it is used with a singular verb. In other words, if the first part of Genesis were translated literally it would read: “In the beginning Gods creates the heavens and the earth.” Translators have generally used God (singular) for ELOHIYM because of the belief in one God and it also goes with the verb. On the contrary, we know that God is not singular because later it reads: “And God (ELOHIYM) said, Let US make ADAM in our image…” Thus, we see that God is more than one entity and Adam was made in its (or their) image.

How is God plural? This is indicated in the word itself. The first part of the word is EL and is masculine and means “strong.” The second part of the word is thought to come from ALAH which means “to covenant.” This part of the word is feminine. It also is thought by some scholars to correspond to the name of the Muslim God “Allah.” If we place the meanings together, we can say that ELOHIYM, or God, means “strong covenant.”

If we add the fact that the male and female genders in the word indicate the “us” that makes the word plural are a male and female united we can say that God, or ELOHIYM, is “a male and female united through a strong covenant.”

Verily, this is the power that created the heavens and the earth and, in this light, the first verse of Genesis could be translated as: “In the beginning male and female energies united by strong covenants (or bonds) to create the heavens and the earth.”

This agrees with our previous statement that all manifested form was created through the marriage of opposing energies symbolized by the one wavelength.

Genesis continues and tells us that God made Adam in his own image “male and female created he them.”

God, who is male and female united by a strong covenant, created Adam, who was the image of God, or male and female united by a strong covenant…

This first Adam was created out of the non-physical (from the human point of view) ethers and was like a living cell with male and female united into one. He was a reflection of the Divine Hermaphrodite God with all the capabilities of reproduction.

The “Fall” occurred shortly after man was divided into two sexes. At this point, his energies became out of balance and the Adams fell away from the powers of godliness that was their divine right. These powers can only be regained by a person cleaving (making a strong covenant) unto his opposing energy and becoming “one flesh” as they were before the fall.

The greatest of masters, the Christ, made a comment on this: “The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, ‘Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?’ And he answered and said unto them, ‘Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them (the Adams) male and female (hermaphrodites), And said, For this cause (because they were in the beginning male and female in one) shall a man leave father and mother (leave the separate duality), and shall cleave unto his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh. Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore, God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

“They say unto him, ‘Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement and to put her away?’

“He saith unto them, ‘Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.’” (Matt. 19:3-8)

Jesus understood the fact that man was in the beginning a hermaphrodite, that male and female could not get divorced and that man must eventually evolve back to that state. To initiate evolution in that direction, male and female must unite themselves through a strong covenant like the ELOHIYM and represent, as close as possible, “the image of God”.

To make such a strong covenant that can survive even death and continue into eternity, God must join the couple together. When the two are both at the correct state of evolution so they can balance each other’s energies, they can, as previously stated, receive a soul confirmation on each other. Without this godlike confirmation, God has not placed them together and divorce may actually be advisable. But if the confirmation is received, then a marriage covenant should be made that should never be broken by the will of man, for what God puts together should only be separated by God, if separated at all.

The marriages throughout the world should be rearranged so each one is confirmed by the powers of godliness working through the soul; then they should not be separated by the little wills of man, but should seek continually the divine male and female union as if in the image of God.

Jesus continues to expand this principle: “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication (her heart is not with her husband), and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away (unjustly) doth commit adultery. (See previous explanation). His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.

“But he saith unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. For there are some eunuchs (those who do not marry the opposite sex including gays) which were born from their mothers’ womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men (men who were castrated or have physical impairment): and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.” (Matt. 19:9-12)

The third category of eunuchs are those who have not received a soul confirmation to marry yet retain all their procreative parts; in other words, they have not been joined together by God to the opposite sex. Jesus said that all people cannot “receive this saying” or incorporate it into their lives, but those who cannot find a suitable marriage partner for an eternal bond, and are spiritually minded, should be a Eunuch for the Kingdom of God. He should covenant not to marriage but toward the kingdom of God and fulfilling the purposes of God. To be a true eunuch, he would abstain from sexual intercourse until God, through his soul, joins him with a marriage partner.

As Jesus said this concept is not for everyone who is single, but only those who are “able’ to receive it. Nevertheless, he who does become a eunuch for the kingdom of God will obtain great power to focus his spiritual energies.

What is the core principle as to what is right and wrong with sex? Humanity has long cried out for an answer and none has been delivered. Nevertheless, mankind needs to know, for if he has not a sure guide, he will not be able to choose correctly and will always follow the path of least resistance. To tell a person who desires sex that “God thinks it’s a sin” does not carry the needed weight in this enlightened age. Therefore, let us seek the true principle.

In ancient days, sexual intercourse was described by the Hebrew word YADA, or the Greek work GINOSKO, which meant “to know”. When a man had sex with a woman, he was said to have “known” her. Here are several examples: “Then Joseph being raised from sleep did as the angel of the Lord had bidden him, and took unto him his wife: And KNEW (GINOSKO) her not till she had brought forth her firstborn son: and he called his name Jesus.” (Matt. 1: 24-25)

“And Adam KNEW (YADA) Eve his wife, and she conceived and bare Cain.” (Gen. 4:1)

“And Cain KNEW his wife and she conceived…” (Gen. 4:17)

“And Adam KNEW his wife again and she bare a son, and called his name Seth.” (Gen. 4:25)

This word is especially revealing when we examine its use in the following verse: “And this is life eternal, that they might KNOW (GINOSKO) thee, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom thou hast sent.” (John 17:3)

Other references are: “Then Manasseh KNEW that the Lord he was God.” (II Chron 33:13)

“They KNEW he was the Christ.” (Luke 4:41)

“Be still and KNOW that I am God.” (Psalms 46:10)

“All shall (eventually) KNOW me, from the least to the greatest.” (Heb. 8:11)

“I am the good shepherd, and KNOW my sheep, and am KNOWN of mine. As the Father KNOWETH me, even so KNOW I the Father.” (John 10:14-15)

All these quotations are translated from the same equivalent Hebrew or Greek word.

Why was the ancient method of expressing sexual intercourse the same as that used for establishing spiritual intercourse with God or the Christ? Is there something similar about a person knowing his opposite and man knowing God?

Christ even presents an interesting correspondence of sex when he says: “If any man hear my voice and open the door, I WILL COME IN TO HIM, and will sup with him and he with me.” (Rev 3:20)

When a man has sex with a woman there is produced union of the divided sacral energies. This produces a “knowing” of each other, a high physical sensation. Since each of us are a part of the projection of God, then we can know God by knowing our other half that completes that projection. The two halves are united and we finally know the whole, or the “one flesh” in the physical sense.

The sacral and the solar plexus centers, which influence our desire energies, unite during the average sexual act and produce high physical and emotional stimulation during above-average sex.

These two, however, are the lowest centers of feeling and are a mere reflection of the feelings of God, or the feelings of our highest attainable human consciousness.

The next major center, which is higher than the sacral and solar plexus centers, is the heart center, which projects love-wisdom energies. It is the center of the Christ consciousness and sends out the energy of pure unselfish love. Less than 10% of humanity are able to have interplay of a significant degree with this center, but those who do will know the meaning of spiritual sex. The sensations and knowing are on a higher plane. The feelings are much more spiritual and the sensations much more fulfilling. Those who do not share the heart energies will always feel that something is lacking in their sex life even if they reach a full physical climax with each act. They will have a sense that there something greater that could be obtained.

The sharing of the heart energies in their fullness is higher in exquisiteness than the sharing of the lower energies, just as the moon is brighter than the stars in light.

The highest major area to be shared is the head centers, or the world of the mind. The heart centers can be shared when people advance into the higher use of the mind. These people understand how to work with mental substance and have learned the use of common sense and unselfish love. The head centers cannot be shared to a great degree until both parties move up to the world of the intuition where they become one in vision. Here they open up communication with the God Within and commune with the Father, the Son, and the Holy Ghost, a great trinity of sharing. These sensations are higher than any sexual experience man has imagined. The mind sensations are higher than the heart just as the sun is higher than the moon, and a grand celestial knowing and union at three levels are experienced that goes far beyond any result produced by physical sex alone.

When a couple have known each other on these three levels, their consciousness has then together entered the presence of God. This conscious sharing from the solar plexus, heart and head energies then continues at all times when they act and think in oneness, even when they are not having sex. The sexual act merely serves as a source of recharging these energies and to remind the couple of the threefold union they should share 24 hours a day, even in each other’s absence.

This, then, is the ideal that all men and women are driven to seek: Union in the three worlds until the presence of God is entered, and Christ and eventually the Father come into the union and “sup” with them. The Father and the Son will be one and we will be one with them.

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Chapter Eight
Selecting a Mate

People of the world today are greatly deceived into thinking that any two people can get along and be happy together if they both put forth effort, compromise and adapt. All marriage manuals, courses and counselors put much faith and energy into this idea and disregard the all-important principle of selecting the right mate to begin with. Humanity seems to have ignored this point as a key to happiness.

While it is true that all people want to marry someone they love, they have no guiding principles to use that will assure them they will actually be happy. If they marry the wrong person, they will find that no amount of Herculean effort will bring stability to the marriage. They will find themselves in the most miserable of all circumstances. Even many apparently stable marriages are made of couples who have resigned themselves to their fate because of fear: fear of breaking religious or society rules, fear of being alone, fear of a lowered standard of living, fear of hurting the children, etc.

In understanding the guiding principle of mate selection, we must comprehend the difference between male and female energies, especially as they apply to human beings. The idea of examining differences between the guiding energies of males and females has been greatly dumbed down by the current politically correct society, yet this ever remains a key of understanding that leads to stable relationships. Unless this difference is realized and incorporated in mate selection, at least 50% of marriages will start off destined to doom just because of the law of averages.

The Apostle Paul understood the difference and wrote around the idea in one of the most controversial and misunderstood passages in the Bible. He said: “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore, as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.” (Ephesians 5:22-24) A corresponding admonition to Eve in Genesis says: “Thy desire shall be subject to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.” (Genesis 3:16)

Many persons are unable to examine these scriptures objectively because they attribute their origination to the narrow-minded views of a male dominated society on women prevalent during that period. They reason that since Paul grew up in a male hierarchy, he wrote to conform to the thinking of that day. This is true to an extent, but we must not make the same mistake as many accuse Paul of doing: we must not miss the underlying truth he is presenting because our pre-conceived views produce narrow-mindedness.

Paul explains that this subject introduced is “a great mystery”. Part of that great mystery is the basic difference between male and female energies, and they are indeed different.

Paul said that wives should submit to their husbands as the head even as the husband submits to the Christ. This is probably the most misunderstood and abused scripture in the Bible. Liberated women of today instinctively rebel against subjection and rightfully shun the fundamentalist teaching of male totalitarian dominion. Paul had no intention of establishing family dictatorships, for he was speaking of male and female energies, BOTH OF WHICH EXIST IN EACH PHYSICAL SEX.

Male energy is the sending, or radiant, energy. Female energy is the receiving, or magnetic, energy. The mind is polarized as a male energy, emotional energy is female; therefore, the male has the energies that send, control and direct and teach, whereas the female has energies that receives, learn and are intelligently controlled and directed to obtain stability. On a physical level, the male is the sower of the seed, the female is the receiver of the seed and conceives. On a mental level, the male is the initiator of ideas through his mental energies; the female nurtures and grows the fruit of his ideas through her emotional energies; the fluid (emotions) of her mental “womb”, which creates form, provides nourishment for their creation, the child of their combined energies. Through the mental intercourse between male and female energy, powerful thought (male) forms (female) are created. The old saying, “Behind every great man is a great woman” reveals the truth of the interaction of these energies.

This is even true when the physical female is dominate in a male society. She dominates through male energy, and if she has a male companion he becomes female to her even though he has a male body.

Before proceeding let me stress again that both biological males and females have within them both energies, but biological males tend to have more male energy and females more of the female. We’ll elaborate more on this later.

The interplay of male and female energies create balance throughout the universe. One is not greater than the other. They are two equal aspects of the one energy of Purpose. Is one half of the wavelength more important than the other? Of course not.

In fact, these two energies have their own spheres of dominance. In the physical world the male is dominate which is evidenced by his stronger body. With rare exceptions, his strength easily enables him to overcome the female, if he so desires.

However, in the next sphere of livingness, the world of feeling, the female is heavily dominate. Her emotional strength is much stronger than the male and when the female uses this energy as a lever in the relationship the male usually feels overwhelmed and will yield to the female despite his superior physical strength.

Then again the male energy dominates on the next level, the mental. This is why there are more male engineers, mathematicians, inventors and jobs that require pure mental calculations.

But then again, the female dominates on the next level still which is the intuitive. The female is much more sensitive to higher perceptions beyond the mind as well as much more believing of things the mind cannot explain.

Thus, we can see that among these four levels of consciousness and perception that the dominance of the two energies is very equalized.

It is true that at various points in time one or the other energy is dominate. During periods of involution (descent into matter), female energy is dominate, and during evolution (ascent out of matter), male energy is dominate. Female energy draws us into matter and creates form, as did Eve symbolically draw Adam and the world into matter and form by eating of the forbidden fruit, which is called the Fall of Man. Male energy pulls us out of matter into spirit, as did the Christ in allowing himself to be crucified so that he could raise the physical body to the plane of the spirit. Both directions are necessary to fulfill the Plan of God in bringing about the creative purpose of the Sonship.

The female energy takes us into the world of experience, and, after we have played and experimented in the “playground of the Gods,” the male energy takes us back home.

We must remember that each of us possesses both of these energies no matter which body we occupy. We all play out roles of being both sender and receiver, but our souls are attracted to either a male or female body in a certain life because, at a certain point in time, our life force is charged or polarized in that direction. This charge fluctuates in us all from life to life. Thus, if one presently finds herself in a female body, this is an indication that her soul needs to be polarized in that energy to achieve maximum progress and fulfillment through learning and receiving. If one finds himself in a male body, then he will be a sender, initiator, and teacher to satisfy his soul direction. To achieve complete fulfillment, however, we must balance and use both energies within us. The fact that we find ourselves in either a male or female body is merely a statement of our soul’s intention that one or the other energy should be dominant, and that we should place our attention there.

Paul clearly explains how this subjection of female to male energy is to occur. (It is unfortunate that conservative religions have used his teachings as an excuse to deny the female her freedom of expression and limit her freedom of agency and movement).

Paul tells wives to submit to their husbands “as unto the Lord” and “as the church (form) is subject to Christ (spirit).” In viewing this scripture, all religions have overlooked the all-important point that a woman cannot submit herself to her husband as unto the Lord if her husband is in a lower state of spiritual evolution than herself. In a marriage relationship, the mate who is at the highest point of progression automatically assumes the role of the sending male energy and becomes the initiator-sender between the two. If a woman, then, marries a man who is at a lower point in evolution and submits herself to him, this corresponds to error of Christ submitting himself to the Church. It would obviously be wrong for Christ to do this because neither party would benefit or progress.

The Church has nothing to teach Christ and loses its spiritual life when it tries to assume His role. Unfortunately, this is currently the case. The Church tries to conform the teachings of Christ to its ends and dominion rather than the other way around. Consequently, the spiritual life within many churches is virtually non existent.

How many spiritually evolved women have been commanded by their religious teachers to submit to their husbands who are less intelligent than themselves? By the law of averages, about 50% of all women pick such mates and by submitting to them, they find themselves in a very uncomfortable and unfulfilling position. Because they are more evolved, they find themselves automatically in the position of the sender-male trying to submit to their husbands, who are receiver-females. Thus, neither party in the relationship is able to balance their energies and both are unhappy no matter how close their personality interests are and how much they strive for harmony.

Woman, by nature, must eventually put her attention on balancing her receiving energies to receive fulfillment and fullness of joy in marriage and other relationships. Since the male energies are those which are leading us toward evolution, then she ideally should find a mate, or sender, that she can receive evolutionary inspiration from. Therefore, to fulfill her destiny, a woman must find a male energy more spiritually evolved than herself or else she cannot become a receiver as the church is a receiver from Christ.

We realize that within one short lifetime that this is not possible for all. Nevertheless, if the female finds herself in a sending position it is much better for her to play out this role of the male energy rather than trying to submit to a male of lower evolution.

This point is of extreme importance, for the abuse of it is the root cause of a high percentage of all married couples being unsatisfied. If each female made it a point to marry a man more spiritually evolved than herself to enable her to become a willing receiver, the marriage success rate would jump exponentially, most probably to around 75%. A success rate higher than this is improbable, for about 25% of all men and women cannot be happy with anyone and do not have the temperament to establish a good bonding relationship. Nevertheless, 75% is a great improvement over 25%. The application of this one principle alone could almost bring in the millennium of peace envisioned by Christianity.

Paul explains the type of relationship the husband should have with the wife: “Husband, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of the water by the word . That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.” (Eph 5:25-27) Just as Christ must be more spiritually evolved than the church before he can “sanctify” and teach it, so must the husband have higher knowledge and spirituality and be able to teach his wife if he is to play the role of the sender.

This does not mean that the male species is more evolved as a whole than the female, but it does mean that to find fulfillment, the individual female should find a male more spiritually evolved (or close to being equal) than herself if she is to find a stable, completely fulfilling marriage bond. One can still have a reasonable marriage relationship with the roles reversed, but we are looking for the optimum here.

Female energies are receiving energies and if she is united with a male that cannot send to her, then she will find that she must take. When the female finds herself in a taking situation, she often does so quite forcefully to the consternation of both herself and her mate. Her energies force her to be a receiver or taker. She becomes unstable if she resists this natural energy flow.

The male finds himself in a position of either being a natural sender in the relationship or of having his energies “taken” from him. He finds that his soul directs him to be a sender one way or another: either by giving it or by having the female take from him. If he resists this energy flow, he is unstable.

True fulfillment only comes when the male is the natural sender and the female the natural receiver.

To achieve this fulfillment, two things must happen:

First, men and women seeking mates must recognize their natural energy flow and the female must seek a male who is at an equal or higher point of evolution than herself. Thus, the haphazard and random mate selection of today must be replaced by a more scientific one. People must learn to judge with a fair degree of effectiveness the pure intelligence of potential marriage partners. Once it is known what to look for, the female will realize that she cannot be fully satisfied with a man who cannot naturally send to her.

Secondly, the whole marriage order should be altered. About 50% of married couples are unhappy because they are with the wrong mate. The solution, as we pointed out, is not a marriage course or counseling. The solution, unfortunately, is a rather drastic one (from society’s point of view): divorce, and remarriage to mates that balance their energies.

“But”, says the objector, “divorce is bad. It breaks up families, hurts people and is hard on the children…”

In many cases this is true. Many children are sacrificed for selfish purposes when the only real reason for a break up is a desire for a new experience. On the contrary, a bad marriage is worse than divorce. No stable family is created, individuals are hurt daily, and it is much more damaging for the children than living with a single responsible parent.

Each woman should examine her mate and ask: Am I unhappy because I am unable to receive from him? Men should ask: Am I unfulfilled because I cannot send to her? If the answer is “yes”, then one should strongly consider divorce and remarriage. If children are involved, such a decision is doubly difficult and it may be wise to delay the separation for  a time, but it must be realized that an imbalance of energy affects the children and that a divorce and correct remarriage will actually benefit them. Under the influence of balanced energies, the children will tend to be more stable.

In the case of a divorce both parents should do all in their power to see that the children are under the influence of both a mother and a father. It is sad that in many cases one parent will be vindictive and sabotage the relationship of the other spouse with the children. This can create a no-win situation.

Nevertheless, a black and white attitude in this and all matters should be avoided. The soul may direct a person to stay with a mate for overriding reasons, but generally, the short period of pain following a divorce is nothing compared to the daily pain of a bad marriage on all family members.

In selecting a spouse, the female should not only choose one of equal or higher evolution, but also one fairly close to her own consciousness. If there is a large gap in evolution between husband and wife, even if the husband is more evolved than the wife, there will also be problems and the bond will be weak. In the case where the man marries a woman too far below him, he will be unable to give to her in fullness because she will not fully appreciate what he has to offer. If we correspond the evolution of mankind with the numbers one through ten, then we will find that males who are a 10 should marry an 8, 9 or 10. If he were to marry a 6 or lower, there would be a gap that would prevent the formation of a strong bond and a stable human Molecule becomes impossible.

If a female feels she is a 10 and cannot find a man of higher evolution, yet feels she must get married, then she should select a man as close to herself as possible in progression. Not everyone will find complete fulfillment in relationships in any one life, even if they have complete knowledge, but that knowledge can lead them toward a fullness of joy that their soul cannot withhold from them if they do not cease seeking.

The female who is a 9 or 10 in evolution and cannot find a sending physical male will find her spiritual fulfillment and balance in higher contacts that she will make that may lie outside of marriage.

A major objection many may have to divorce will be on religious beliefs, but this should not be a deterrent if one examines the Bible. Jesus gives the one reason that couples may justifiably divorce: “But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.” (Matt. 5:32)

Here we have another scripture that has been greatly misunderstood and has caused much trouble in the world. Many religions have forbidden divorce because of these words of Jesus.

Notice that Jesus said that the only justifiable cause of divorce is “fornication”. The prevalent belief among Christians is that fornication is sex between two unmarried persons or between two married people not married to each other. But here Jesus uses fornication as an act between married couples. Therefore, the meaning intended by Jesus is not the one attributed to the word by people of today.

Actually, fornication may not even involve sex, for in the context it is used throughout the Bible, it means “to be alienated from” or “to remove one’s heart from”.

Thus, if the wife’s heart is alienated from her husband, he may justifiably divorce her. God often called Israel his wife and when she committed fornication against Him and removed her heart from the true God and worshipped idols, she committed fornication against Him and He gave Israel, his wife, a bill of divorcement.

Thus, it is with people. If their energies are not correctly matched and balanced, they commit fornication and become alienated and should get a divorce.

On the other hand, if their energies are balanced and the husband divorces a wife who has given her heart to him, he “causeth her to commit adultery.” In other words, he causes her heart to forcibly seek someone else who may be at a wrong point of evolution. “And whosoever shall marry her that is divorced (wrongfully divorced) committeth adultery.” If a man marries a woman whose heart is still with her original husband, there is produced an imbalance of energy and this is what true adultery and fornication are.

The question will naturally arise as to how one is to find another at the correct point of evolution. How is one to tell whether or not he is a five, seven, or ten?

Pinpointing a person’s correct point of evolution is indeed difficult. We could take pages outlining an approximate procedure, but even if correct principles are spelled out the average person would not use them correctly. In mate selection, the primary concept that should concern the female is the question: Is the man, I am considering capable of sending to me and stimulating my spiritual evolution? Can he teach me and lift me up to higher realms of consciousness? Does he comprehend true principles faster than I do? Does a natural giving come from him to me? Am I close to him in spiritual evolution? Do I feel confident in trusting his judgment?

The male should ask himself: Does she seem to be willing to receive from me or do I naturally tend to receive from her? Do I enjoy telling her things I believe? Am I able to teach her and pull her up to a higher consciousness? Does she respond when I mentally give to her? Does she love me for my mind as well as emotional stimulation? Am I the natural giver and she the natural receiver in the relationship?

Both parties should seek for confirmation in the relationship from their own souls and intuition through prayer, meditation, or contemplation. If their marriage is the right direction, they can both receive an endowment of soul energy as a spiritual testimony to the correctness of their relationship. If they desire further confirmation, they may seek the advice of another who they respect as a person of high spiritual evolution. This third person may then receive inspiring counsel for them as a second establishing witness. Nevertheless, individual soul confirmation must always be the supreme influence.

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Chapter Seven
Human Relationships

The foundation of the family unit through the establishment of the marriage bond was the foreshadowing of The Molecular Relationship. The one-to-one monogamous relationship has been historically proven to be the most natural and stable one existing among men and women. In this union, the man is like a positive ionic atom who takes a negative ion and together produce a whole with greater properties than either alone have. You could say that a male and female in a good relationship create one human atom, or Adam. These greater properties appear, however, only when there is true union. When this union is consummated, the couple has the power to become as one entity, with much greater strength and power than the one sex alone.

Unfortunately, few ever achieve true union, for about half of all marriages end in divorce. Of the married, surveys reveal that about 75% of all couples are eventually not happy with their marriage, and would leave their relationships if the right opportunity presented itself.

Thus, about 25% of married couples have achieved relative stability and happiness, and therefore have attained a degree of molecular bonding. The creation, or hope of creation, of this simple Molecule (or completed human atom) has been the impetus behind almost all great social evolutionary systems among humanity.

Because of marriage and the resulting family unit, mankind began to build homes and protect the family unit. The gathering of family units created cities. The gathering of cities produced nations. With these gatherings came many governments and business orders, all of which are in some way indebted to the bonded relationships. In one way or another most of the progress mankind has made toward civilization is because of the first Molecular Order: the impetus toward male-female bonds, many of which occur outside of orthodox marriage.

.At this point we may pose this thought for consideration: less than 25% of married couples practice any semblance of molecular relationship and few if any of them have a fullness of sharing. Many of these stable marriages occurred because of chance; that is, the couple were lucky enough to find each other, someone they could live with in relative peace. Even so, this feeble approach to the bonding order of the molecules has stimulated remarkable progress for mankind. Imagine what would happen if mankind successfully followed the order of the atoms and 100% of married couples were successfully bonded. If the present marriage relationship (which is similar to a completed hydrogen atom) can so inspire man and woman, what heights would they attain if they, with conscious effort, sought and practiced the order of the molecules?

Mankind is evolving toward two aspects of The Molecular Relationship. The first involves male and female interrelations and recognizes the physical and psychological differences between man and woman. This includes the sexual relationship.

The second does not involve any physical sex but looks upon male-female combinations as units of energy with either a male or female polarization. These units will unite to eventually form complex Molecular Orders and lift mankind to great heights of consciousness.

All things in manifested form are charged with a surplus of either male or female energy, but by nature the charge should be slight. The division of the form of the human into male and female bodies actually runs contrary to perfect balance and creates a sharp separation that causes trouble for us. By nature, all life forms tend to evolve to hermaphrodite (having both male and female aspects contained in one living unit.)

The atom usually achieves a high degree of balance with its male and female energies and only carries a slight charge, as do the Molecules and cells of our bodies. The cell does not need another cell to fertilize it, but contains within itself the male and female elements necessary to reproduce itself. Thus, it is much more balanced than the human being, who is out of balance when separated from his opposite.

The present separated condition of the sexes in the human and animal kingdom is unnatural, for all such life forms descended from original hermaphrodites and will eventually evolve back to that condition. Unity and balance between male and female energies is the natural condition of joyful livingness.

Man and woman today correspond to the atoms which are called ions, with an overcharge of positive or negative energy. Man is like a positive ion missing an electron and the woman is like a negative ion with an extra electron. A bonding between them produces balance and fullness if there is a correct interplay of energy.

Men and women have seven centers and six are capable of functioning in fullness on their own, but the sacral center (located between the navel and the tailbone), which controls the sex drive, is divided in two energies. Half of the energy of this center is in the female body and half is in the male. When they are joined together in love they produce a completeness and a balance of energy; that is why the sex drive, the impulse to balance one energy with another, is so strong. Men and women feel incomplete in the sacral area.

The sacral center is the only center with only one polarity in a body. The male body has one polarity and the female the other. To the male his polarity feels positive and to the female her polarity feels positive even though they are opposite. When they unite sexually they can each sense a completeness that occurs when both polarities are sensed simultaneously. In this sense they are no longer two, but “one flesh.”

Male and female have both positive and negative polarities in the other centers and do not have such a driving need to unite with the opposite sex to complete themselves. Nevertheless, when the other centers of the male and female share a similar vibration there is a non-possessive transfer of energy that creates high states of joy in both of them.

One male and one female working together in cooperation and love, physically and emotionally, balance each other’s energies. Without each other they are like incomplete atoms. With each other they become as one atom (or “Adam” as the Bible calls them).

A popular teaching states that we are perfect within ourselves and we need no other human being to complete us. As far as being able to live a fulfilling life this is true. Many single people are happy and would have their life no other way. But from a higher point of view, we are not complete until the whole of the human race (and eventually all life in the universe) are united in oneness and this uniting must begin with two people and multiply geometrically.

The male-female unit is the basic building block of the soon-to-be human molecular kingdom. In other words, one plus one equals one. This is why monogamy is the natural state of mankind. It takes the complete sharing of one male and one female to create balance.

In a polygamous situation, for instance, someone is almost always out of balance and, historically, this type of relationship has only been able to exist under the influence of a strong authority. Only through the fear of God, secular laws and authority, or by the sheer power of money has a physical multiple relationship been able to be maintained without some type of open rebellion.

One may ask as to why some of the greatest members of the human race have then practiced it. Among them are Abraham, Moses, David, Solomon, Isaac, Jacob, Mohammed, Joseph Smith, Brigham Young, and many others. In addition, many great men, and a few women, in history have carried on multiple relationships outside of marriage with just as close of an association as those who practice plural marriage.

In past ages plural relationships were created for a variety of reasons. Among them are:

(1) Misuse of power.

The person dominating the relationship (usually the male) did not have the patience to perfect a one-on-one relationship so such a person selected multiple mates for his enjoyment. Why? Because he could.

(2) Promiscuousness

In this case the person feels out of balance and unsatisfied because of too strong of an identification with the physical and emotional selves. Such a person has no understanding of the energy flow and is unaware of his unbalanced state.

(3) In rare cases the guides of humanity saw an opportunity to create a channel for the incarnation of advanced entities to serve the race and encouraged their mouthpieces (prophets) to take more than one mate to create a greater number of bodies of high vibration.

This was periodically necessary in more primitive times but in this era it would create more problems than it would solve and overall there is no a lack of quality bodies for the awaiting generation. Individual couples must learn to take the measures necessary raise themselves to the spiritual level necessary to prepare the quality bodies necessary for the coming teachers.

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Chapter Six
The Evolution of the Molecular Relationship

It will help us to know and understand the next step humanity must take in the relationship principle if we follow the evolution of matter itself. In each step, from the microcosm to the macrocosm, there will be correspondences. They will not always be exact, but they will be close enough so one with intuition can discover the truth of that which is above by studying that which is below.

Most scientists now accept the exoteric truth that matter and energy are interchangeable. Those who know have always used the words matter and spirit. Matter is female, or receptive, and spirit, or energy, is male or sending in relation to matter. Energy merely operates in a different frequency than matter. When spirit impregnates matter, soul energy is produced which is neither spirit or matter, but the interaction between the two.

Before form existed as matter it was energy vibrating in an apparent vacuum. As the vibration created structure, up and down quarks began to manifest and became attracted to each other and “married”. These married units attracted numerous other married couples until a vast community of families were created. A “city” of married sub atomic particles (many which are as yet undiscovered) produced a positive center called a proton. To balance off the positive center, a negative field electron was sent in circular motion around the proton. These two energies became married unto time indefinite and created a stable atom of hydrogen. This process was duplicated billions and trillions of times until vast hydrogen clouds were created. Modern astronomers have studied the hydrogen clouds and many believe they are the beginning of the creation of worlds.

For billions of years, free hydrogen atoms accumulated and the hydrogen clouds became denser. The energy within the cloud is intense and the atoms formed few if any lasting relationships. Slowly, these atoms attracted each other and the center point of the cloud became a point of intense gathering; the tiny atoms were literally forced into a union called “fusion”. In the fusion process, four hydrogen atoms were compacted together with such pressure that they were transmuted into the more evolved element of Helium and other heavier  atoms. Note here that it took the fusion of four atomic lives to create one greater one with new properties. Nevertheless, the four individual lives are not lost. Each of the four sets of male and female particles still maintain their individuality, but are merged into a greater order of livingness.

In the process of fusion, great amounts of energy are given off. The fusion process gives us the energy of the hydrogen bomb and is also the process whereby the sun generates its energy.

Through the process of fusion, spirit, or energy, descends deeper and deeper into matter and more and more complex atoms are created until finally entire suns, star clusters and complete galaxies of billions of stars are created.

The gravity of the sun captures and embraces planets which circle around it. them. As these planets coalesce and cool, the most advanced elements are utilized in rocky planets as earth. These include iron, lead, as silver, gold, radium, uranium and others.

When spirit descends into matter and touches its deepest point, then it stops involving into substance and starts evolving out of matter. Thus the process of evolution begins and the factor producing it is marriage. At this point, the male and female atoms join, not through the force of fusion, but through the process of natural attraction leading to marriage. Note that the bonding takes place through a free will attraction as evolution begins and not by force.

When atoms find suitable partners, they unite in a strong bonding relationship and share electrons with each other. In other words, they share energy, and this shared energy holds them together. They make a marriage bond which they agree to within their own sphere of consciousness. The chemist calls this bonding relationship “shared electron-pair bonds”, or “covalent bonds”.

As atoms form these covalent bonds, they know not what the end product will be of their evolution, but act under the impulse of Spirit which urges the tiny lives to unite and create something greater than themselves.

The most elementary marriage among the elements is that of two atoms of the simplest of elements: hydrogen. Two hydrogen atoms form the simplest bond in a monogamous marriage, but the bonding is a strong one and difficult to break down. Each atom has one electron which they share with each other. This sharing completes their first orbital shell, or chakra, and causes them both to be more stable.

The first orbital shell can hold a maximum of two electrons and, since hydrogen has only the one orbital shell and each atom has only one electron, there can only be a single marriage. When two hydrogen atoms share their single electron, they fill up their orbital sh ell and it is as if each one had two electrons. Note the diagram below:

 

The more advanced elements have more complex electron shells and many of them give and receive two, three and four electrons and evolve into a multiple relationship. This causes the creation of a more advanced molecule, and the result is a more highly evolved substance with higher properties than the separate elements had in their single condition. One of the most common molecules is H2O, or water. Each hydrogen atom can only marry once, but the oxygen atom can receive two electrons and thus has two mates, as illustrated below. In this case, the oxygen atom is a female with two bonding male relationships. 

In turn, the water molecule has either a slight negative or positive charge and forms relationships with other water molecules.

In another example, carbon, which is male, has four relationships with the atoms of chlorine and produces a molecule with totally new powers and properties.

It is important is understand the advancement that relationships in the atomic world produces. Hydrogen and oxygen are both gases, but when they unite, they produce the more advanced product, which is liquid water. Water is totally unlike either hydrogen or the oxygen that is in the air that we breathe. The union of these two elements produces a substance much greater than they were individually. In the same way, humanity, through the Molecular Relationship, can create group lives with greater powers and properties than it has individually, and will be able to share in the consciousness of the whole. Expansion of consciousness is the great objective of existence. This makes human molecular marriage very desirable, for it can create a possible expansion of consciousness which is beyond our present dreams.

The atoms and molecules of our bodies have a consciousness and marriage relationship which began billions of years ago. At that beginning point, they could hardly dream of the place they are at now where they share in the consciousness of the whole body. Thus, they have no desire to again be lowly atoms with separate and single existences. Instead, the force of evolution presses them ever onward, and they forever seek more and more complex molecules. Then, the molecules unite in various marriage orders and beautiful crystal forms are produced, and, after eons of time, a living cell is created. Finally, the cells unite in bonding relationships and create every type of life form that we see about us.

 

Humanity must follow on a larger scale what the tiny atoms have done in the microcosm. We will create human molecules. The molecules will create forms, and the forms will create magnificent living human cells.

The initiating of human Molecular Relationship is the initiation of the next quantum leap in evolution for mankind. This evolutionary leap is not so much a single jump as in times past, but a transition to group evolution that makes possible eternal increase for humanity so that they can tap all the powers of godliness that have always been within.

The concept of The Molecular Relationship is not new, but has been partially introduced in times past to certain initiates and formulated in a limited way. There has always been great limitation in developing it among humanity because of the consciousness of the people. However, the concept has always existed among the brotherhoods who have guided the race of man. Some call these beings Masters, some call them Gods. Others call them resurrected beings. They are an evolutionary step above regular humans and are often called the God Kingdom. The Brotherhoods form Molecular Orders that interconnect the divine thread of Purpose, which leads back to the presence of the One God. Now, humanity has reached the point where a new and everlasting order of relationship can be firmly established among them.

To reach this point, man has gone through a similar evolutionary process as the atom has. The correspondences are close, but never exact, for each higher kingdom has a higher consciousness and a more complex molecular order at the end of its evolution.

We go through a series of hundreds of incarnations as human beings. Our first incarnations are in a fairly primitive state; these would correspond to the hydrogen atom. Then, gradually, through the force of circumstances, we are fused into a higher atomic weight and the seven chakras, or energy centers and their pedals, open up until we correspond to radium and uranium and become radioactive. Finally, the advanced entity splits the tomb of matter (just as an advanced atom splits) and the resurrected eternal life is released from its prison. In between these times, the individual goes through many male and female existences.

Below, please note a chart showing the electronegativity value of all the elements. On the average, the 1.6 values and lower are the male atoms and 1.7 and higher are the females. In the molecular state, the atom with the lowest negative charge is the male and highest is the female. Male and female are relative factors and will vary according to the energy with which they are in a relationship.

 

On the chart above, carbon (C) has a high female charge, but since oxygen (O) has a higher one, carbon becomes a relative male when united with two atoms of oxygen to form CO2, or carbon dioxide. Thus, it is with humanity. Some males find themselves highly charged with female energy. The solution for these males is to create stability with female partners with slightly more female energy than themselves.

If you study the chart, you will see how the tiny lives pass through incarnations where they are sometimes male and sometimes female. The vertical rows represent corresponding elements with similar properties, and as you follow them from the top down, you will see how the various correlations of elements evolve in male or female charge. The seven horizontal rows represent the seven electron shells, corresponding to the seven chakras or energy centers in man.

Of the seventeen vertical rows with a charge, seven are evolving toward the female charge, eight toward the male charge and two remain fairly stable. All the radioactive elements in the seventh shell are the highest evolved atoms and carry a male charge.

At the risk of being attacked by the females reading this treatise, I will first point out that I did not create the atomic world. It is just there for us to examine. It is interesting to speculate as to how correctly our evolution through male and female cycles correspond to the evolution of atoms. It does seem that the best and the worst of people in our history have been males. It is a fact that those who have initiated causes and have led humanity to great heights and depths have usually been in male bodies. There are exceptions, but even if an advanced entity finds itself initiating a great cause in a female body, she must do so using male energies, for all initiating energies are male, as we shall soon explain. Thus, the most notable persons in history who have appeared to accomplish great works (good or bad) have been male, such as the Buddha, Christ, Abraham Lincoln, Edison, on one end and Nero, Mussolini and Hitler, and others, on the other.

When an entity from the spiritual realms decides to initiate a cause on the earth, he usually chooses a male body. The reason for this is that the male energy radiates outwardly and it is easier for him to make a physical accomplishment in the male energy.

If the entity decides he needs to learn a great lesson or absorb knowledge and wisdom he will generally choose a female body because the female energy draws things inward magnetically.

All of us go through both of these cycles of male and female energy and one is not greater than the other. The female energy, however, does not get all its deserved credit because it (being magnetic) is not visible with the eye. It must be felt. The male energy (being radiant) is seen with the eye and gets more of the credit in this age, but it shall not always be so.

However, the human race as a whole is evolving to utilize more female energy, which is just as powerful as male but in a magnetic direction rather than radiant. As knowledge of the female energy increases, more advanced entities take female bodies as such intelligence gravitates to opportunity.

Keep in mind that a person of even the stature of Christ could assume a female body, but he would be operating under mostly male energies because he is initiating cause which is a male energy function.

An interesting difference between the atoms of the earth and humanity is that these atoms carry an overall female charge, whereas the human kingdom has an overall male charge. This accounts for male dominance in most societies. Fortunately for the female, this charge is shifting toward neutrality, or balance and equality.

The key to understanding the marriage of atoms to create molecules is found in the word “balance”. Because duality exists as a division of Purpose into positive and negative forces, this causes all wavelengths and all forms to be at least slightly out of balance. In some cases the lack of balance is so small that it is not detected by scientists. There is no form or life that is one hundred percent balanced, or neutral, but all consciousness is driven in this direction.

The inert or noble gases are very close to neutrality, but the atoms that we examine here are at least slightly out of balance and seeks greater balance through “marriage” with other atoms. Even after the marriage bond is formed and the molecule created, such molecules in turn find themselves slightly out of balance and seek stability in newer and higher relationships with other molecules. This seeking for stability and balance is the driving force behind all evolution and presses the atomic and molecular lives forward until the cell is created. The cells then seek balance in relationships and evolve into life forms with other cells until man is created. Finally, man and woman find themselves out of balance and seek harmony in the human marriage relationship. However, the marriage of the atoms is in an advanced state of progression, whereas humanity is in its infancy and has only begun to experiment and follow soul direction in this area.

The whole drive behind the entire evolutionary process in all forms can be summed up in this statement: All form seeks stability and balance through the establishment of a shared bonding or marriage relationship. A bonded relationship, or marriage, is merely the result of life forms striving for balance. In the end, balance will be achieved by the union of all diverse forms and their demonstrative oneness and the return to the energy of Purpose, but while duality and form exists, there will never be perfect balance. We are all driven to seek this balance, however, and must seek it if we are to paint the pictures of God.

If we look at the Molecular Order as a drive for stability, then we can easily understand why atoms and molecules establish the relationships they do.

For instance, the ammonium molecule is made of three atoms of hydrogen married to one atom of nitrogen. They form this relationship because hydrogen needs one electron to complete its outer electron shell and nitrogen needs three. Thus, hydrogen shares it’s one outer electron with nitrogen and nitrogen shares one of its electrons with hydrogen. Since nitrogen needs three electrons for balance, it must find three companions to form a stable molecule. In forming this relationship all the atoms benefit. All atoms complete their outer shells and receive relative balance. Note the ammonium molecule below:

The hydrogen atoms are not only dependent on the nitrogen for stability, but also each other. Each hydrogen atom benefits and receives stability because its brother hydrogen atoms are sharing, and there is also interplay between the three electrons shared by the three hydrogen atoms because they all share in the same electron shell. Keep this point in mind, for this inter sharing of all the atoms is the key to molecular stability and must be applied to human relationships, as we shall see.

In the above ammonium molecule, relative stability has been achieved. This can only be done through a bonding relationship that is dependable. If, for instance, a hydrogen atom was to fly off, it must be immediately replaced by another atom of hydrogen or the molecule would be destroyed, and each atom would be in its original state of imbalance.

It is also interesting to note that even a balanced molecule will seek to help other atoms achieve balance even if some of its own stability is sacrificed. When the ammonium molecule encounters a hydrogen ion (or an out-of-balance hydrogen atom with no electron at all) with a lopsided positive charge, it will then share it’s last two electrons with the hydrogen. The hydrogen atom, having no electrons to share, places the whole molecule out of balance with an excess positive charge, as indicated below:

This association with the extra hydrogen atom is not a permanent relationship but the ammonium molecule is merely doing the stray hydrogen a favor by carrying him for a season. The ammonium molecule immediately begins to look for another molecule that has an excess electron that can take in the hydrogen ion in a permanent relationship. The word “ion” came from a Greek word that means “traveler”. Indeed, the stray hydrogen ion travels from one relationship to another seeking to balance itself with another electron.

Simple molecules like water (H2O), ammonia (NH3), sodium chloride or salt (NaCl), carbon dioxide (CO2), and others form the larger body of the molecules of the earth, but as we look at the more advanced and organic molecules, we see the establishment of some very complex marriage relationships.

Chemists were long puzzled over the marriage or bonding relationship of hydrogen and carbon in benzene. Analysis showed that six atoms of carbon were married to only six atoms of hydrogen. According to the balance needed in their orbiting shells, a carbon atom should be able to take in four hydrogen atoms, which would mean that six carbons can take in twenty-four hydrogens. However, it was discovered that benzene had established balance through an unusual marriage relationship as follows:

Each line stands for a shared pair of electrons. The double line stands for two shared pairs. Notice that to achieve balance, the carbon atoms married each other as well as hydrogen. Each carbon atom is married three ways: One to a hydrogen atom, once with a single bond to a carbon atom, and one more with a double bond, or a double share of electron pairs to still another carbon atom. The interchange of energy between the carbon atoms flows in a circle with all the outside hydrogen sharing in the circular force. In relation to each other, every other carbon is male, but in relation to the hydrogen they are all female.

A similar but continuous hexagonal marriage relationship of carbon atoms alone, as illustrated below, produces common graphite. Here, each carbon atom is associated with three other marriage partners:

Hydrogen and carbon in various molecular arrangements produce a number of hydrocarbons with numerous properties:

Here we can get an idea of some of the variety of molecular relationships that can be derived from just two different kinds of atoms.

Now we shall illustrate some of the more complex molecular and atomic arrangements. Below is Penicillin:

Next we see that cocaine involves very complex relationships:

Silicon and oxygen form an interesting crystal chain:

A study of these molecules will reveal that a wide variety of marriage relationships are possible in nature. We see that a molecule can be very complex yet still have stability. It is important to note, however, that a random mixture of atoms will not produce a stable molecule. Sometimes the addition or subtraction of just one atom could destroy the whole relationship formation in the molecule. In others, such as penicillin, the “R” stands for “radical.” At this point in this particular molecule, a number of different atoms can be interchanged. A substitution of the atom here will slightly change the properties of the drug, but not destroy the molecule.

We could spend a thousand pages on the relationships and interactions of the tiny atoms and molecules, but this treatment should be enough to give the reader a grasp of the basic principle of The Molecular Relationship: the atoms unite themselves in various marriage orders to produce molecular and cellular life with properties and potential much greater than they alone possess. Now, humanity must do the same. Our next step in this treatise is to examine how male and female may achieve fulfillment and progress by following the same marriage order that all the other progressive lives in the universe do: The Molecular Relationship.

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