The Mystery of Romantic Energy

Chapter Twelve
The Mystery of Romantic Energy

The correctness and incorrectness of the sharing of sex energies has been a cause of debate for thousands of years. We have covered several principles seeking to bring enlightenment in this area, but the subject must be more deeply explored. We must correctly understand the right use of this power for without understanding we always follow the lower way.

Another factor making right understanding more complicated is the fact that the right use of sex energy is different for different people at varying stages of consciousness and evolution. The right use for each individual is that highest use which his consciousness can accept.

There are four basic ways individuals look at sex:

[1] The first way is by one who thinks that the giving and receiving of physical pleasure is natural, and that he should enjoy it with whomever he finds attractive. Such a person will ask himself: “What is the harm in enjoying sex with whomever I want and obtaining physical fulfillment?” His answer is usually, “I can see nothing wrong with it, for I give and receive pleasure.”

These people receive no great condemnation from their souls for the way they use sex energy, for they use it according to the best of their knowledge. Nevertheless, because of natural law, there can be suffering from feelings of emptiness and lack of fulfillment on the emotional level. From time to time, they will feel impulses from their souls prompting them to greater discrimination and a more correct use of sex energy. Even though there is emotional sharing, this attitude makes it difficult for this person to merge with the deeper emotional energies. This is the next field of endeavor to explore.

These individuals share the least amount of energy in sex and are therefore able to enjoy free sexual license with little affecting their conscience. A basic rule is: The less energy shared in sex, the less discriminating the person need be in its use and selection of partners. The more energy shared in sex, the more discriminating the person must be in its use.

If there were no energy shared at all, then there could be no “sin” in pure physical sex. For instance, the animals do not share energies in the way that humans do; thus, they are under no condemnation for their use of sex. The basic point to remember is that sex is not good or evil because of the physical act itself, but because of the manner in which the energies connected with the act are directed.

[2] The second way of looking at sex is viewing it with the idea that any sexual relationship is good if romantic love and sharing of emotional feeling are involved. “If no one gets hurt, it’s OK” is the general idea expressed here.

A person with this viewpoint sees no reason to hold back his or her sexual expression as long as there is a feeling of romantic love between two people. He or she feels that sex for physical satisfaction only, with no love interest, is wrong, but can rarely give a logical explanation as to why. They merely feel that love should be there for somehow it makes it more satisfying.

For a person at this stage of thinking, this is the most correct use of sex energy. It may be quite fulfilling, but it still leaves the participant short of full completeness, for a full sharing and union is not accomplished at this stage of thinking.

[3] The third attitude toward sex is the black and white view. Sex sanctioned by the church is the only right sex, and sex outside of this sanction is wrong sex, a terrible sin. People at many different levels of consciousness get caught in this rigid way of thinking. For those who are governed by their emotions, this way of thinking can be beneficial to them and lay a foundation for stability and security in relationships. Those who are of higher evolution want logical explanations as to why sex is good or bad in different circumstances and feel as if they are caught in a trap by religious teachings.

Those who govern their sex lives purely by black and white religious teachings will also fall short of fullness. One major problem is that they often suffer guilt feelings over many of their sexual desires. A person may desire to experiment with his spouse or find the body of a passing female attractive and feel guilty because he thinks God or his religious authorities would disapprove. This person is always struggling with “temptation” and is seldom happy with himself.

Such people need to break their minds free from rigid rules and govern themselves by true principles. They need to understand why something is good or evil and not merely believe a doctrine because someone has told them it is true. Religious teachings generally guide mankind in the right direction, but their virtue is often destroyed by a black and white attitude. “The letter (of the law) killeth, but the spirit (of the law) giveth life.” (II Cor. 3:6)

[4] The fourth attitude is that of those who are evolved enough to understand the true principles governing sexual expression.

These they understand either because they intuitively perceive them, or have been taught by someone else. In either case, their sexual actions are governed by knowledge and understanding. This attitude is rare indeed in today’s world. However, if a clear teaching on the matter gained wide circulation, the number of people in the fourth category would be dramatically increased.

The basic physical sex urge in humanity propels us toward sex because we sense an urge to union, and sex is a symbol of union in the physical world. The higher energies of desire, love and purpose also seek union, and true fulfillment only comes when all human energies in the male-female relationship achieve union. It makes sense then that anyone who gains a true knowledge of a path to greater fulfillment will seek with all his energies to achieve it.

People who have not shared all the energies leading to complete sexual union and fulfillment sense that there is something more available to them, but know not how to find it. On the other hand, once this greater fulfillment is experienced, even once, neither heaven or hell can stop that person from seeking and eventually discovering all the laws of unity. As knowledge is then increased, the numbers of individuals who use sex energy correctly correspondingly increases.

The person with the fourth attitude mentioned above understands the sharing principle governing sex and all relationship interactions.

To understand the sharing principle, one must look upon all individuals as units of desire energy. Each person, male and female, possesses one unit each of solar plexus energy. This is the energy of desire and romantic love. The sharing of this energy must be carefully regulated by spiritual law because the wrong dispersal of it creates many of the negative emotions, feelings, and actions of mankind. Feelings of jealousy, anger, and emptiness primarily result when this law is broken and those who suffer these feelings usually have no idea as to the root cause.

Each individual possesses one unit of desire energy. As long as he or she maintains a complete and full unit of this energy, they will not be afflicted with jealousy, anger or emptiness. For instance, if participants have little association with or desire for romantic companionship and are content to be alone and keep this unit of desire energy all to themselves, they will maintain the one unit within them and not suffer jealousy, anger or emptiness because of relationships. When, however, they meet potential mates, sends out desire energy, and develops a romantic love toward him or her, they find that they are no longer a complete energy unit. To be complete (as far as energy is concerned), the female must send to him the same amount of desire energy that he sends to her. If he does not receive it, he will feel unbalanced and will be forced, sooner or later, by his nature to take his energy back and once again become stable.

Let us take Jim, for instance who has been a happy single person for the past five years. He finds himself in a state of balance for he is sending out no romantic energy and keeps his entire unit to himself; that is until Sue crosses his path. He finds her very attractive and after a date decides to go out on a limb and send her 25% of his emotional unit. She is not interested and does not return it. Jim then feels out of balance for a few weeks until he gets the message that she is not interested and gradually draws it back in.

Jim may not realize it but it is not his destiny to remain single. A short time later he meets Betty and bravely ventures forth 25% of his romantic energy again. This time the reaction is different. Betty is attracted to Jim and returns the energy with a risky 50%. Now she is the one taking the chance because she is giving 50% for 25% and if she does not draw more energy out of Jim she will feel out of balance. Jim, on the other hand, feels great. He takes 25% of her 50% and adds it to the 75% he already kept inside him and he now has his 100% stable unit with a 25% surplus to play with should he decide to venture forth some more energy.

The truth of the matter is Jim felt burnt by Sue (his previous relationship) and he is hesitant to let down any more walls so he keeps his sending energy at 25%. On the other hand, Betty is beginning to feel short-changed and unstable for she only has her 50% plus Jim’s 25% (that he is sending) or a total of 75% of her unit. She now reaches a point where she must draw more out of Jim or end the relationship so she tells Jim: “Either we get serious about each other or we’re history.”

That does it. Jim wakes up. He likes Betty and does not want to lose her. He increases his energy output to 75% and Betty responds likewise. That is enough to do the trick. They then spend the next several years sharing between 60-80% of their energy together, always trying for that 100% but never quite achieving it. They are both afraid to let down those last few walls.

Then comes a time when Sue bounces back into the picture. Now she cannot have Jim she finds him attractive and sends him 25% of her energy. Jim and Betty are both sharing around 80%, but Jim is flattered and returns to Sue her 25% plus another 15% for a total of 40%. Now he is only sending Betty 40% and she feels a definite void and asks Jim: “Is there another woman?”

“Of course not,” he responds. “That is your imagination.”

He says this halfway believing it because physically he has been completely faithful. He does not realize that he has robbed Betty of her energy.

While Jim is leaking out energy to Sue, Bob (a family friend) picks up on Betty’s need for emotional support and invites her to lunch. He’s always liked her as a friend, but never felt impressed to show her romantic attention until now for he feels her need for energy. He accepts her 40% and sends her 80%. She responds by withdrawing the remaining 40% from Jim and sending an entire 80% to Bob. They immediately have an affair.

Now Jim is beside himself. He has a 15% overflow to Sue and 40% to Betty. 55% of his energy is missing. When Betty is late getting home from work that night, he is suspicious. He questions her. She is defensive. He knows something is wrong and does not want to lose her. He becomes desperate. He withdraws the 25% from Sue (which causes her to feel strangely out of balance) and pleadingly sends an additional 10% from within he has never given her before.

He is now sending Betty 90% and getting back 0%. He is devastated and almost loses his will to live – unless he can get her back.

Now we have put our point across let us make a long story short. Jim and Betty patch up their marriage, but because of guilt and pain they are both hesitant to share more than 60% of the energy unit for some years to come. Jim never does realize that his “innocent” yielding to Sue by sending her some of his feelings was the indirect cause of the whole crisis to the marriage. All he can think of is: “Why did Betty do this to me?”

On the other hand, Betty is not without responsibility. She could have resisted Bob and put her energy into restoring balance, but she would have never had the temptation from Bob if Jim had not taken energy that was rightfully hers.

Let us sum up the key to romantic stability which is this:

Each person has one unit of romantic energy and when the sharing of that energy begins, the amount shared must be returned to maintain peace and stability.

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