2003-8-21 06:09:00
The Question (See Finding Balance Part 1):
Suppose Stan and Lonnie learn about the teaching on energy and accept it. What should they do to reach the zero point as a unit? Do they have to split up or is there some way they can keep their relationship and obtain it?
JJ:
You were brave, my friends for taking a stab at this touchy question. Now I'll take a turn.
First of all, there is nothing Lonnie and Stan can do to reduce their combined charge to zero. Stan is a plus one and Lonnie a +.5, making their combined charge +1.5.
The same goes for Ron and Mary. Ron is a +3 and Mary is a -9. The charge is just what is for a particular life and changes very little. It is like height or skin color. You do not work at changing it but just accept what you are and make the best of it.
"But can't they do something to reduce their charge so the zero point can be reached?" asked one.
To understand the situation let us go back to the flowing river analogy. If you are swimming in the river would you even consider using your will to change the direction or strength of the current?
No. There is nothing you can do in this regard. Even so there is something you can so to take control.
What is this?
You take the power and direction of the current under consideration and decide to go with the current or against the current. If you decide to go against the current you must call on inner reserves of strength.
If you want to stay in the zero point, you cannot just relax as if you were in a still pool. To stay still you must swim against the stream with a certain and constant amount of force.
This is the way it is with our male-females' overall charge. These are currents of force that pull us in a certain direction. If the disciple wants to reach the zero point yet is a plus three out of balance in his overall relationship then he must apply three units of constant force, by the power of his will, to stay at zero. In addition, he must apply more than three units of force to get there.
Now, the person who is out of balance winds up getting tired like the swimmer attempting to be still in a current. He only stays near the zero point a short time. As soon as he relaxes he goes back to being three points out of balance.
The key is not to use constant force of will to get to the zero point (on consciousness) but to balance the forces around you. When this happens little or no current then pulls on you and it becomes much easier to stay at zero point and commune with the higher worlds without illusion.
Both gays and heteros have their peculiar difficulties in reaching the zero point as far as mastering the flow of energies.
The heteros have a chance of doing it but they have a disadvantage over gays in the fact that the swing and variety of their energies is all over the scale. This means that not too many male-female relationships, if randomly brought together, would be in balance. About one out of ten are lucky enough to be close, so the couple does not have to swim with difficulty to stay near zero.
The gays have the advantage of having their natural energy already near the zero point. They rarely appear in the extremes of energy as happens with the hetero. This makes it easier for the average gay to get along with and understand another gay than it is for the straights to relate to each other.
The disadvantage is that two gays in relationship are the same charge and when two of the same sex unite it is like two small currents combining to make a greater current which pushes away from the zero point. But because the gays are swimming in weaker currents to begin with, the change in current that pulls out of balance is not as noticeable as it is with the hetero.
With the hetero you have one current going one direction uniting with another current going the other. The weaker current is then cancelled out and the current continues in the direction of the stronger, but with reduced force. If both currents meet with the same force they will cancel each other out and the couple can enjoy the stillness of near zero energy disturbance.
Note that I use the term "near zero." This is because we never reach exactly zero in our energy, but we can reach a point where the energy does not disturb.
So, we are back to the question of what Stan and Lonnie should do since their natural combined energies equal +1.5. This is not a big pull of energy, but is enough to create a distraction so constant effort must be made to focus the inner attention on point zero.
Stan and Lonnie are great friends. They love each other and are committed to the relationship. It is not worth it to them to part and seek balance in anyone else, male or female. They feel they would be betraying each other if they were to do so.
Now, there are others in relationship, hetero and gay, who are so out of balance that they may relish to idea of moving on to someone new to find greater balance.
Stan and Lonnie do not feel this way, but do want greater balance. What are they to do?
There are two things they need to do if they are to stay in relationship, yet obtain balance.
First, they must insure that they learn the right use of sex so their attention can be directed to the soul, rather than the ego. It does little good to approach the zero point in energy if all that is contacted is the lower self.
I have written some about right use of sex in references to gays but do not feel inclined to write more. Those who are ready to balance and use the zero point to enter the doorway to the soul must commune with their own souls about sex. If they seek with a sincere heart they will know what to do.
Secondly, Susan was on the right track when she suggested they bring in a female. Actually they need two females. And not just any female will do but they must be females with a low charge like themselves. This would mean the two females would (most likely) be lesbians. They would definitely be females with a low sexual attraction toward men.
The ideal would be for Stan to balance himself off with a female with a charge of -1 and Lonnie to balance himself off with a minus half point. When they meet the females with the right energy it will just seem right to them. They each will feel more peaceful and stable.
The ideal would be for the four of them to move in together. As long as Stan and Lonnie have a committed relationship though neither should have sex with the females, but only seek to establish relationship and balance their energies.
If moving in is impractical then the four should seek to work together or plan activities together. In other words, do what is necessary to establish as close of a relationship as possible with the group of four.
I intend to live forever - so far, so good.
Steven Wright
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