Achieving Balance Part II

2001-3-21 00:10:00

Thanks to those of you who commented on my last questions. Now I'll add my two cents worth.

Problem Two
Alice is married to Rocky. Alice is a seeker and Rocky is not. His favorite pastime is attending football and other games, drinking beer and watching TV. Rocky is a nice guy, a good provider, but Alice receives nothing from him on a spiritual level. He has a great knowledge of football and attempts to teach her about the nuances of the game and she absorbs a little, but this falls far short of fulfilling her desire to receive. She tries to share with him some of the teachings she has studied but he feels she is on the fringe with her thinking and the relationship would be much improved if she remained quiet and never read another book.

(1) Is this relationship worth saving?

This is a judgment call. The relationship will never reach the ideal for Alice (or Rocky for that matter), but if Rocky allows Alice her freedom to explore and learn she can still achieve reasonable fulfillment.

(2) Is it possible for Alice and Rocky to achieve balance and fulfillment?

It is possible. Read on.

(3) If they decide to continue the relationship, what steps can Alice take to bring her the greatest possible satisfaction?

A reasonable balance can be achieved if Alice is able to find a sender or two to take the place of her non sending husband. This must be achieved without creating a threat to Rocky, for if it does the relationship is doomed. If Alice compromises her learning to keep Rocky happy then her progress is doomed.

(4) If Alice decides to bolt from the relationship what would be a good plan for her to formulate?

Melva gave some practical steps here, but when the necessary adjustments are made and if another relationship is desired Alice needs to look for a partner who can send to her and stimulate her progress thus creating a balance of energy.

Problem Three
Dale is a seeker, but when he met Erica all philosophy took a backseat for she was very beautiful with a wild personality. After a whirlwind romance they married, but after the dust settled Dale is discovering a void. Erica is interested in the physical and social almost exclusively and insists that neither of them discuss politics, religion or philosophy.

Dale has a strong desire to give and seems unable to do so.

What should he do?